Ok, i'll try to make sense of this, yet keep it as short as possible. first, some background. I'm a 27 y/o male, and my fiance is a 21 y/o female. we've been seeing each other for over a year and a half now. we've been engaged for 3 months now. i am very much in love with her, and i feel we're going to have a great marriage. Oh, she also has a 3 year old son from a prior relationship. here's my problem. basically, during our entire relationship, my fiance hasn't been able to get along with my friends. i really like my friends. all of them are married, none with children yet. they all have jobs, and for the most part, are all successful. i consider myself successful, having a college degree, a job for 10 years now, a house of my own, along with a couple cars. my fiance doesn't have a college degree, nor a real super job. she feels that when we're around my friends, she doesn't fit in. she doesn't talk to them much, she pretty much just hangs by my side when we're with them. that's fine and all, but a lot of times, my friend's wives will head upstairs to make drinks or something, and the guys will hang out together for a while. well, my fiance still is by my side. so, it's the guys, and her. at public get togethers, the guys will kinda huddle with each other, and the girls will kinda huddle with each other, and her and i just wind up standing together outside of the huddles. i had a party a while back, and i tried to make rounds, and mingle with everyone, and my fiance took it as "not wanting to be with her", and "leaving her all alone". she asks me every time we go out with my friends, not to "leave her all alone". i just would like her to get along (and talk, and hang out) with my friends, just like everyone else's wife does. i know how uncomfortable she gets around my friends, and lately, when my friends throw a party, or a get together, i've just been avoiding the entire situation by not going. my friends really want to see me, and from what i see, they make the effort to try and get to know my fiance, but it just appears that she's not making the same effort back. she just keeps saying "i dont fit in". my friends are not the judgemental kind at all. they could care less where she works, what education she has/doesn't have, etc... since we haven't been to many of the gatherings lately, my friends have now started questioning me, wondering why they can't see me, and such. i just wish i could snap my fingers, and have my fiance fit in with everyone, and have a good time and such. i try to get her to have a drink or two, and just mellow out a bit, but she's always so tense around everybody. so who's to blame here? my fiance, or my friends? i can see both sides, but i really wish my fiance would put forth more effort. she doesn't have any problems getting along with my family, just my friends. if she put forth the effort that she does with my family, i don't think we'd have any problems. i think that she just feels very insecure about herself. one more thing that she thinks may be a problem, is that she has a son, and no one else does. another reason to her that "she doesn't fit in". i try to bring this topic up with her (her and my friends), but it just turns into a fight, with her saying that she doesn't fit in with my friends, and that she's tried to get to know them, and she just needs more time. we've been dating now for over a year and a half, with plenty of opportunities for her to get to know them. does anyone have any suggestions? please help. i have no intentions whatsoever of even thinking about leaving, i just want this situation resolved (at least partially, if not completely). thank you in advance for your suggestions. sorry it got so long.