SadJules

I have been wandering the internet trying to find answers and trying to make myself feel better..... I have good days and bad days - as we all do. We were together for 2.5 years. I have been NC for three months now. I haven't spoken to him or seen him since the night I left him sitting in his car saying that we shouldn' t continue the relationship. It wasn't a clean break since I didn't explain myself well (had been to a party that evening but knew it was 'time') He has since tried to contact me - 3 calls, two texts, a couple of e-mails and leaving a 'message' with a mutual friend since he couldn't get me to respond. He thinks I think he broke up with me and his 'message' was to tell me that he had no intention to do that. What really happened is that he was detaching from me during the summer and he may have even have had another woman in the wings. He ignored by birthday in November and basically was not around to support me during a family crisis. Since this was just another callous gesture on his part I decided that we really were better off apart. I didn't see that he would be there for me. The problem is - I never told him this though he COULD figure it out on his own by observing his own behaviour. I am debating to e-mail him and ask him for a chat so I can get closure on this - I am calm, it has been 3 months, so no yelling I have always tried to take the 'high road' on these things and after reading SuperDave's post on being civil (when we two parted) and letting the other partner know what is happening I am thinking of breaking NC. He is already with another woman (but has no qualms saying we have not broken up and that he misses me) so I am wondering if it is worth it in the end to even try to contact him. He's really not a good man - has had many divorces and doesn't have a great relationship track record. Am I answering my own question here? I need to get some clarity here.....