saorcha

Re your thread/Att Majord23 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hi Majord23 (great name by the way!) I have litterally just joined this forum a few minutes ago. My name is Saorcha. I have read your thread on breaking up and reconciliation, and judging from the things I am "Not" meant to be doing, I am currently doing them all unfortunately! I am going through a breakup with my partner of 8 years, we have two children. Its all still very raw, just about 3 weeks into it now or thereabouts. We had just bought our dream house after renting for 8 years and finally had stability for all of us. We have moved 8 times renting in just 8 years, and in that timeframe, we actually moved 5 times in just under 2 years, which is so disruptive for us all. Then the crunch came when I got dumped by him, he told me and the kids that we had to move out and rent that he couldnt afford to financially have us in the new house that we were only there for a mere 8 weeks and that he would have to lease it out to tenants in order to keep it. So me and the kids had to find a place to rent which meant that we moved twice in 8 weeks. Our son has palpitations and irregular heartbeat and its all caused by stress, as we argued constantly, and in the end the arguing was on a daily basis about everything and anything, saying really nasty things to each other. Then one day I just said its over I hate you, I no longer fancy you and a lot of other really nasty things. He cried continuously for hours and I showed absolutely no sympathy whatsoever. Then two days later I had a change of heart and asked him if he wanted to give the relationship another go, and that is when I was "dumped", and ever since then I have been crying, not eating, not sleeping, begging him for forgiveness, pleading with him to take me back, and basically yes you have guessed it, "totally and utterly degrading myself" I even asked him to give it a year and then see what happens, which he very reluctantly agreed to, but I know deep down he just did it to fob me off. I have to see him at the weekends, he collects the kids sat morning and brings them back sun afternoon. he rings them to say gud nite, etc. so theres no real way of me distancing myself from him properly. I even rang him today and asked him would he be with anyone else within the year and he said no because that would just add more complications. Then in the next breath he told me to go ahead and live my life and if someone comes along that I like I should be with him. I was utterly appalled and am speechless. I would really do with some advice please. Many thanks, Saorcha.

Re your thread/Att Majord23 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hi Majord23 (great name by the way!) I have litterally just joined this forum a few minutes ago. My name is Saorcha. I have read your thread on breaking up and reconciliation, and judging from the things I am "Not" meant to be doing, I am currently doing them all unfortunately! I am going through a breakup with my partner of 8 years, we have two children. Its all still very raw, just about 3 weeks into it now or thereabouts. We had just bought our dream house after renting for 8 years and finally had stability for all of us. We have moved 8 times renting in just 8 years, and in that timeframe, we actually moved 5 times in just under 2 years, which is so disruptive for us all. Then the crunch came when I got dumped by him, he told me and the kids that we had to move out and rent that he couldnt afford to financially have us in the new house that we were only there for a mere 8 weeks and that he would have to lease it out to tenants in order to keep it. So me and the kids had to find a place to rent which meant that we moved twice in 8 weeks. Our son has palpitations and irregular heartbeat and its all caused by stress, as we argued constantly, and in the end the arguing was on a daily basis about everything and anything, saying really nasty things to each other. Then one day I just said its over I hate you, I no longer fancy you and a lot of other really nasty things. He cried continuously for hours and I showed absolutely no sympathy whatsoever. Then two days later I had a change of heart and asked him if he wanted to give the relationship another go, and that is when I was "dumped", and ever since then I have been crying, not eating, not sleeping, begging him for forgiveness, pleading with him to take me back, and basically yes you have guessed it, "totally and utterly degrading myself" I even asked him to give it a year and then see what happens, which he very reluctantly agreed to, but I know deep down he just did it to fob me off. I have to see him at the weekends, he collects the kids sat morning and brings them back sun afternoon. he rings them to say gud nite, etc. so theres no real way of me distancing myself from him properly. I even rang him today and asked him would he be with anyone else within the year and he said no because that would just add more complications. Then in the next breath he told me to go ahead and live my life and if someone comes along that I like I should be with him. I was utterly appalled and am speechless. I would really do with some advice please. Many thanks, Saorcha.

Re your thread/Att Majord23 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hi Majord23 (great name by the way!) I have litterally just joined this forum a few minutes ago. My name is Saorcha. I have read your thread on breaking up and reconciliation, and judging from the things I am "Not" meant to be doing, I am currently doing them all unfortunately! I am going through a breakup with my partner of 8 years, we have two children. Its all still very raw, just about 3 weeks into it now or thereabouts. We had just bought our dream house after renting for 8 years and finally had stability for all of us. We have moved 8 times renting in just 8 years, and in that timeframe, we actually moved 5 times in just under 2 years, which is so disruptive for us all. Then the crunch came when I got dumped by him, he told me and the kids that we had to move out and rent that he couldnt afford to financially have us in the new house that we were only there for a mere 8 weeks and that he would have to lease it out to tenants in order to keep it. So me and the kids had to find a place to rent which meant that we moved twice in 8 weeks. Our son has palpitations and irregular heartbeat and its all caused by stress, as we argued constantly, and in the end the arguing was on a daily basis about everything and anything, saying really nasty things to each other. Then one day I just said its over I hate you, I no longer fancy you and a lot of other really nasty things. He cried continuously for hours and I showed absolutely no sympathy whatsoever. Then two days later I had a change of heart and asked him if he wanted to give the relationship another go, and that is when I was "dumped", and ever since then I have been crying, not eating, not sleeping, begging him for forgiveness, pleading with him to take me back, and basically yes you have guessed it, "totally and utterly degrading myself" I even asked him to give it a year and then see what happens, which he very reluctantly agreed to, but I know deep down he just did it to fob me off. I have to see him at the weekends, he collects the kids sat morning and brings them back sun afternoon. he rings them to say gud nite, etc. so theres no real way of me distancing myself from him properly. I even rang him today and asked him would he be with anyone else within the year and he said no because that would just add more complications. Then in the next breath he told me to go ahead and live my life and if someone comes along that I like I should be with him. I was utterly appalled and am speechless. I would really do with some advice please. Many thanks, Saorcha.

Hi Majord23 (great name by the way!) I have litterally just joined this forum a few minutes ago. My name is Saorcha. I have read your thread on breaking up and reconciliation, and judging from the things I am "Not" meant to be doing, I am currently doing them all unfortunately! I am going through a breakup with my partner of 8 years, we have two children. Its all still very raw, just about 3 weeks into it now or thereabouts. We had just bought our dream house after renting for 8 years and finally had stability for all of us. We have moved 8 times renting in just 8 years, and in that timeframe, we actually moved 5 times in just under 2 years, which is so disruptive for us all. Then the crunch came when I got dumped by him, he told me and the kids that we had to move out and rent that he couldnt afford to financially have us in the new house that we were only there for a mere 8 weeks and that he would have to lease it out to tenants in order to keep it. So me and the kids had to find a place to rent which meant that we moved twice in 8 weeks. Our son has palpitations and irregular heartbeat and its all caused by stress, as we argued constantly, and in the end the arguing was on a daily basis about everything and anything, saying really nasty things to each other. Then one day I just said its over I hate you, I no longer fancy you and a lot of other really nasty things. He cried continuously for hours and I showed absolutely no sympathy whatsoever. Then two days later I had a change of heart and asked him if he wanted to give the relationship another go, and that is when I was "dumped", and ever since then I have been crying, not eating, not sleeping, begging him for forgiveness, pleading with him to take me back, and basically yes you have guessed it, "totally and utterly degrading myself" I even asked him to give it a year and then see what happens, which he very reluctantly agreed to, but I know deep down he just did it to fob me off. I have to see him at the weekends, he collects the kids sat morning and brings them back sun afternoon. he rings them to say gud nite, etc. so theres no real way of me distancing myself from him properly. I even rang him today and asked him would he be with anyone else within the year and he said no because that would just add more complications. Then in the next breath he told me to go ahead and live my life and if someone comes along that I like I should be with him. I was utterly appalled and am speechless. I would really do with some advice please. Many thanks, Saorcha.