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We've only went out ONE time by ourselves, and I haven't been 'seeing' her for 2 months, i've KNOWN her for that long. So basically, when we go out shopping this weekend, hopefully, it will be only our second outing together. What do you think? How cna i pull it off?

Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

How would you suggest I make the move to her. I have known her for a total of 2 1/2 months but we haven't really hung out that often. I wnat to make a move to her but I don't want her to be repulsed by it

Hi Everyone, I've been kind of seeing this girl that I met at work. I am 22, she is 21. I actually found a new position at another company so we will not be working together. Now to my question. We actually met randomly in a different city (long story) before we even met each other at work. We've played soccer together and went running together. This past Saturday we went out to dinner, just ourselves, to a restaurant. The 'date' went extremely well and there wasn't a dull moment. We even setup future 'dates' for us to do - play raquetball, buy stuff for our new places, etc... The question is, I don't want to get stuck in the friends zone. How do I step it up and give her a vibe that I want to date her. She is an awesome girl with many qualities, however, she seems very busy. When she's with me it seems like she's really into me, however, it's really hard to get a hold of her. I really have no idea if she's sending vibes or not - i'm clueless! Does anyone have any tips on how to get into the "relationship-zone"? Thanks!

Thanks for the advice again. I really want to write the letter... I'm still torn on whether or not I"ll actually give it to her and "ask for one more chance". My only fear is finding a "quality" woman. I really don't want some "club tramp" or some hooch. I want a good girl that has morals and good values. And, I want someone that matches my personality and is fun. Ahh.... i guess I'll just wait it out for a bit. Thanks again all.

what do you all think about the letter? I think it's kind of like a hail Mary pass.. i'm going to give it all I got and see if she takes me back.

Thanks for the replies all. The thing is, I just don't want too much time to pass to let us drift apart. I'm thinking that I should write a letter stating my whole emotions and everything to her... if she takes it, good. if not, then i guess it wasn't meant to be... but I have to try. I feel like if I don't give it my best shot then I'm still hanging on to strands of hope.

the problem is that we went a MONTH of ZERO contact, nothing. it seems like she has forgot about me. what if i just call her to see how she's doing, no talk about relationship?

what do you mean experts? I don't get it? I'm assuming they're going to say don't call... but i really want to . I just want to make sure she doesn't forget that I'm here and that I really want to be with her.

thanks for the suggestions, they're greatly appreciated. But I just don't want to grow apart from her. It's already saddening that we went for a month of ZERO contact. I made the contact to her... man i don't know what to do. I just want to call her when she gets back to see how she's doing. Is that okay?

I was thinking about calling her a couple days after she got back from vegas just to see how she is and how it went. I also plan to tell her what new stuff I have been doing to show her I am strong. I am a very persistent person and she knows that. If that doesn't help, I am thinking of writing a letter basically telling her how she makes me feel and asking her to make a decision. Even if we take it really really slow, that's okay. I just want to be with her. What do you all think?

My girlfriend and I have been going out for about two years now. We are/were exteremely close. We both went to the same schools, grew together, and even our families know each other. Our first year of dating was pure heaven. Everything went right. We never fought or anything. We even were talking about marriage after 8 months of dating. While we were dating, she would write me cards and say things like "I want to be with you forever" or "no matter what guy comes up to me even if they're better looking, richer, etc... it wouldn't matter because it's not you". She would say these things that , what i thought, you can't take back. Fast forward to about two years after we initially started dating. I took a job which requires some what of an amount of domestic travel. She's now in her last year of college. Additionally sometimes my job requires me to work long hours. Anyway, the stress from my job and the stress from depression (seasonal depression) really got to me around Novemeber and December of 2002. She ended up wanting a break. The problem is, I was so stubborn at the time and didn't give her the break. I kept calling her. Made her cookies. Tried randomly visiting her......all for fear of losing her. Fast forward another 5 months and now we're completely separated. It really hurts me that we are not together and what's worse, it hurts me when I see her out in the bars/clubs out with other guys and her friends having fun. I don't know if I can ever get her back, i just want to know what you all think. The past month, I wanted to give her the break that she wanted. I made a promise not to call her until classes were over. When I finally called, it seemed as if she didn't care - almost like "why are you calling". We had dinner the next day and I asked what she was feeling and she had no response. She still says "I don't want to have a relationship with ANYONE, if I wanted to have a boyfriend I know I would want to be with you". Anyway, she is going to Vegas for fun this weekend. I know not to call her... but I am tempted on calling her after she gets back. She is also going to Hawaii with family late July/early August and then right afterwards San Diego for work. How should I approach this? How can I make her want to go out with me again? I really miss her.