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Is it possible that perhaps he does not 'need' me (sexually). Can porn be as good as a real live human being at times? He does have insecurities on performance due to his ex's. and he has always been forced to hide his interest in the internet stuff, and playboy channel from them. Is it possible that perhaps he can satisfy himself as good, or better by himself then with me? How can I tell? When I confront him about the internet stuff, he tells me that he only goes on to surf, and look. Sometimes he is on for 20 minutes, sometimes over an hour, several times a week when I am not home, or he is home before me. Perhaps, he just settles with me? And all he really needs is the internet, and some good movies to keep himself happy. What makes a man choose porn over sex? Sex that makes them scream and go crazy? Because he is afraid he won't be able to perform?(which happens a LOT lately). Should I leave him. . .

I give him oral constantly, we have masturbated together, we have a very active sex life. And usually, he seems to really enjoy it! However, it is killing me that even though we are intimate almost once a day, he still jumps on the porn sites the second I walk out the door or fall asleep. I was actually a stripper when we first started dating, and I was posted on several internet sites, I quit all of this for him because it bothered him so much. He was never interested in looking at my web pages and videos on the internet, and yet all he does is look at these other women. Atleast if he had been looking at me, I would know that he was fantasizing about me. He tells me that he just looks at the stuff because he is bored, and has become 'accustomed' to it. Is this true? Men out there, can you really be looking at a bunch of women with their genitalia posted for your viewing and really be fantasizing about your girlfriend. This seems very unrealistic to me. Please help. What to do?

My situation sounds like yours exactly. I am in this same exact boat as we speak. Time to cut him loose? move on? How about this. Have you ever just come out and asked him if he is still attracted to you? Ask him if he still wants to be with you (as a sexual partner). And if he says yes, ask him, then why does he jump on his pc the second he walks in the door to look at hardcore stuff (my bf does this also). My BF's answer to this, "why do you only look at it the second I walk out of the house, come home late, or fall asleep early is because he is bored. He also says he has become 'accustomed' to looking at it often. Confront him now! Don't let him make you feel badly and give you those types of answers, it is not fair to you. Trust me, I know how you feel.

I am a fairly nice looking woman, average weight, nice face, nothing terribly unattractive. My boyfriend tends to look at porn, atleast several times a week(I assume he is masturbating each time he does this). It tends to take me a WHILE to get him to become aroused. He says he is too tired, he couldn't stop thinking about food, something was distracting him like tv or the cats and I just cannot get him going. Sometimes I would like to think that he must have just 'fixed' himself right before I got home, and that is the real reason, but he would never admit that. He says he is still very attracted to me, but sometimes it does not seem like he is at all. The other night, we were watching porn on tv together, (he was sooooo tired he was not interested in having sex) a scene came on for like 5 minutes. He was ridiculously aroused when he jumped up! One scene with two women, and in such a short amount of time! (And he STILL would not fool around w/me, even after getting aroused!) WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? I sit here in almost tears, wondering what could possibly be my problem. Why does a man do this? Do they not need you anymore? Should I get ready to move on? Does he not desire me enough sexually?