Ammie

my bf for one and a half years broke up with me over a month ago. The reason being is that he doesn't want a relationship right now, it's been too much and too much for him as I was too clingy. Now we only see each other once or twice a week we talk on the phone sometimes. To tell you the truth, I've never had better days just yet since the day he ended our relationship. We're both 23 and still at uni, have our own things to do. He came away wanting no relationship, not even with anyone right now. I know he has no one else. I told him I'd wait till he is ready. He wants to be friends for now but he said he doesn't think that the next person is going to be me. He said he doesn't love me now, he has no control over these sort of feelings, LOVE. He said he really did love me and he didn't just stop loving me. It's been a while, I was too clingy and wanting him all the time with me. That's the ready he pulled away so hard. Anyway, we still catch up... as friends but we've had sex a couple of times. And today I'd been thinking all day that I hate chasing after him, it makes me look like a loser makes me look stupid and I should not be doing it. I am not going to call, if he wants to call me he will call me. And surprisingly, I got sms from him. I shouldn't have called back I was thinking but it was too late as I was already on the phone with him. He said he was feeling pretty tense and depressed and wanted to talk to someone and that someone must be me. He feels comfortable talking to me as I do to him. He says he doesn't love me though, but I don't know. But yeah we ended up having sex again, I guess we're both pretty lonely at this stage. I don't feel bad with what happened tonight though. I am not hurt either but the only thing would hurt me is that he goes away thinking that it was bad. But then again I am asking myself, why should I care about what he is thinking about. Do you guys think that he just needs a company and sex from me. I think he does anyway, I just need other opinions. Does he need me in a way? Obviously he was thinking about me so I don't know. Anyway hope it is not too boring. By the way, he is a nice nice guy, maybe he wants to spend times to himself for a while. Today he said that our relationship was a good one, a real good one. But yeah I don't know why he ended it or he just needs a bit more time to figure out what he wants. And during those times, Should I stay out of it? Should I just not see him for a while till he realises it or something. Anyway Thanks guys. Ammie

I and my bf for a year and half just broke up. It's because of the fact that we went too strong from the start, it was all good till about a couple of months ago we had lots of arguments about space. I admit that I wanted him there all the time but he also needed times to himself. Now he called it off saying that it has to be done and he doesn't want anyone right now, not for a while. He said his feelings have changed and he doesn't love me anymore and he is sorry he broke my heart he didn't want to. I burst into tears and so did he, I could say he was crying more than I was... I think I cried a lot before that too. for all my life, I've never seen any guy cried that much before. Does he still have feelings for me but he only needs time to think and that I better give him time and wait? Or is it finished, over whatever he calls it? But there is no one else in his life that's for sure. He said he wants to be friends with me, and when he's up for the relationship again he will think of me first before anyone but now he needs times alone. We talked on the phone before he said he misses me but he doesn't wanna get back together right now he needs times to think of what's happened and that I should not wait. What does he mean, tell me please. Does he still love me but have to be mean because so then he can get his space for a while to think? Please anyone help me please, I am lost without him. We were good, perfect but we only had problem with space.