Ouch, joeshabadoe, that's harsh. I, too, am a married woman of 17 years who fell in love with another man. Feelings change all the time and you can't help it when love strikes. I think it's harder to get over someone you're in love with when you're married because you're not in the dating scene and meeting new people, and something is wrong in your marriage. Unless this man really tells you his feelings and wants to be with you, you have to forget him. You will end up pining away for him and ruining your life. That's what state I'm in right now. I feel like I will be on my deathbed and want to see this other man. I haven't seen him for 1 1/2 years. You have to figure out if you want to stay married or change your situation first. It's true that even if you love this other man he will not think of you in any respectful way and want to be with you if you're cheating on your husband. So you're in a losing situation with him unless you're divorced and then he wants you.
