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Hi sweets! Well yes it looks as though your in a bit of a position there! Do you call again or just leave it and move on.. Your probably leaning toward contacting him again becuase you haven't resolved the issue within yourself.. Sure I've been in your posiiton in the past, more than once in fact.. At present theres a woman at work I like who's just broken it off with a guy and she says and indicates shes interested but as she has had bad experience I know she shouldn't and doesn't want to rush anything which in itself is understandable. Unfortunately as I know there was interest here I just want to rush her along! I think the bottom line here is that we can't expect the other party to reassure us they care or value us because they have issues of their own to deal with.. And sure we'd love to help in any way and comfort them but that just impeeds there own progress and in affect they will associate these i'll feelings with our efforts.. I am going a lil nuts thinking about how she asked for my number on Friday and I called the very next day to see if she'd lke to do something.. But of course she never returned my call.. i know again I am rushing it, I just hope I don't scare her off which is a possibility! I ended up leaving a message but I would've been way better off sitting back and waiting for that phonecall.. A Guy/Girl breaks contact off for a number of reasons.. They might not be interested or they might simply not be capable of making rational desicions due to cirumstances they are currently encountering.. Thats what your situation sounds like to me.. I mean if you were in the same town still or if he wasn't having problems himself at present them i'm pretty confident you two would still be seeing each other regularly. On the other hand while he's in his current state and you aren't at easy grap he will probably go within himself somewhat becuase as much as he wants to share his woe's and fun he doesnt want to appear weak, out of control or to be able to give you the full attention you probably deserve... I have a girlfriend in another state, we used to chat all the time and once we got together. however since then i've dropped the calls off a lil as I hate not being able to see her and share intimate moments with her.. She is the best on the phone but she can't supoprt the way i'd like from so far away so sometimes I just prefer to close off from her and deal with things myself.. This is not what i'd prefer ultimately but my subconscious reacts this way and I find myself neglecting her now and then for a week or two. If she was here I know we'd be together and probably well on the way to something special.. So here I am.. Looking over I notice Bec's not at work yet. i'd love to call her as a friend to hassel her.. Hey someone had a big weekend did they, but i'd worried she'll think i'm hassling her.. which means i probably shouldn't contact her at all.. But then i'm left with this unchecked feeling that we could have already gotten to know her and be close if i'd taken it easy in the first instance or been a little cooler.. She really did like me in the beginning.. But now I want to rush it along.. This is a big no no.!! So I could ask you what I should do, ? But is it really any different..? I think not! We should both back down and concentrate on other areas of our life where we can exceed or at least meet our expectiations. When the focus comes off those we want to focus on us then usually that will happen.. Just smile and be happy to hear or see them but leave it at that.. Sorta like yeah good to see you but if your not going to pay me attention then who needs it..! Sure is a little gamish but it's the only way it'll work.. I just want that one instance to be alone with her and make her smile and just share some quality time, but if she's not ready or interested like your friend then what can you do! Especially if you know they aren't good for you.. It's more of a needing to know your worth something to someone.. Believe me you are or will be there sweets. I have many woman friends but they don't fill the void or even come close to a significant other, but I just need to keep in check that I am a good person and the right person under the right circumstances will come along!!!! Another side to this is that we both seem to feed off others attention. I.e. if someone pays us attention or treats us with respect then we'd do anything for them. It's a quality sorely missed and I commend you on that. It's a shame I haven't met someone like yourself, although I probably have but have been blinded by my own want's/desires and not taken the right path but more often the easy and destructive path. Hope tohear from you again mickxo