forestspirit

Wow my friend, how heart wrenching that work is getting in the way like this. You said in your first post, "She said she didnt like that I was always coming on to her or always asking for sex that was one of the reasons. then it was she felt pressured. there is always a reason." You must feel sexually frustrated, like the harder your try to reach for it the quicker it slips away. What really grabs my attention is 'there is always a reason', like the core issue isn't really being addressed, something is being avoided. Her feeling pressured is a good clue to what it is. All you may need to do is relearn the 'love dance'. Sex is a very spontanious thing. One must flex with the moment (no pun intended), with a little witty humor here and there. Breathe. Be as compassionate as you can. I dont think you're over reacting about the infrequency of the sex, once a week wouldn't be bad. It sounds like you may have a stronger 'libido' which I've seen in some couples. Think more about what you can give than receive. Feel good, and it will eminate. Caring deeply about someone is the greatest aphrodesiac. So are massage oils, vibrators, and books with waaaaay too much information about how to how to do It. Hopefully these shift differences won't last too much longer. Have you considered looking into new work?