Girlygirl2007

I used to feel this way, too. 7 years of marriage and 2 kids later (and a father who broke up her family through infidelity), I came VERY CLOSE to breaking up my marriage because I got emotionally involved with someone else. It is really important to never say never, because you will face many temptations in life. This is coming from someone who is very strong in her beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. I might get flamed for saying this, but remember that life is difficult and you never know when you'll get thrown a curve ball. Sometimes, even the strongest of us fail.

It IS Cause for concern! I am married, got close to a coworker, and came very close to breaking my marital vows because of this relationship. Thankfully, it ended (it was painful), but the fact that I am married didn't seem to be what did us in. If they are spending that much time together, it is a very real possibility it can develop into something else.

Hi there, new here Was looking for information on the net regarding just this topic. I recently had a very similar situation occur in my life, and am facing just as much angst as you are regarding my close call with infidelity. I am seeking counseling, simply because I now realize that the "near affair" I had was really a wake up call to tell me that there are some things going wrong in my marriage. I am now being counselled, and hope to get my husband to join me at a certain point. As far as the hurt generated by the "breakup" of your extramarital relationship, I am starting to realize, only 5 days post "breakup", that I was addicted to the excitement of having someone admire me again. After 2 children and a stressful 7 years of marriage, I was really happy to have someone admire me again. It made me feel years younger (I am 37, and am feeling that this must be a mid-life crisis as well) and, well, honestly, it made me feel SEXY again. I am learning how to channel that "sexy" feeling back into my marriage, and I am hoping to rekindle some of the spark that has been lost between my husband and I. As I told my extra-marital "friend", the notion of being 40-something, single and with two small children sent me reeling with fear. I am not ready to be a divorcee, so I simply had to break off my affair before it got off the ground. So, out of something that could have been very devastating, I am taking some good kernels to help my relationship at home. I hope that helps you. And remember.... you can be addicted to people and emotion, so find a method that helps you kick the addiction. If your self esteem is low, you will continue to go back to this guy, who is continually rejecting you. (and about this, I speak with experience!) So, make an effort to go do something new with your husband to get your mind off this other guy. Hope that helps! I hope you feel better soon. Girlgirl2007