Laura_E

In answer to Locke, I know I should be looking elsewhere, and I've tried but I just dont seem interested in any other guys. I know the whole situation may have an element of the "I want what I cant have" syndrome but At the moment I just dont seem to want to be with anyone else. And I'd love to put the ball in his court but I see him every day since we live in the same house and I think he may treat me differently. And arwen, It's really hard to get distance from someone you see so often, I mean sometimes when I go away for the weekend I manage to sort all my feelings out and manage to rationalise evrything but the I see him again and all my strtegies just fly out the window! But Your point about wether I'd have fallen for him in other circumstances... that's something I've never thought about and is a really good point... I'm gonna have to think that one over, Thanks!

Ok, So I'm in my second year of college and in my first year I met this really nice guy and we became really good friends. We were both in serious relationships at the time and his girlfriend was in new zealand and my boyfriend was going to a different college so we had that in common and we became really good friends over the next year. We always got on eally well and I saw him as my best friend, and never saw him in any other way. About 3 months ago his girlfriend broke up with him and I broke up with my boyfriend (which was completely coincidental) Not long after this we started having sex and we decide that we wer just " sex buddies" and it was just helping us get over our last serious relationships, which was fine with me, the sex was good, and I really enjoyed his company and felt comfortable with him because we were best friends. So for the last 3 months we've been doing it together every now and again yet we've still kissed other people we've met when we were out or whatever. The problem is, that recently, and inevitably, I've started having really strong feelings for him. It's really hard because we live in the same house (with 8 other people as we're students) and whenever I spent time with him My feelings just gett stronger. It's really strange because alot of the time we treat each other like girlfriend and boyfriend and there's some nights when we jus lie in bed holding each other. Yet he's made it clear on his bebo profile and in general that he doesn't want a relationship. I'm so so confused and I dont want to tell him how I feel because I dont want things to change or get awkward between us. Some of my friends I've talked to think I should tell him how I feel and stop the whole " sex buddies" thing but as much as this whole situation is hurting me I still want to be with him. He can be a bit of a cocky bastard sometimes so I'm also worried he'll make fun of me a little bit if I tell him. The thing that really annoys me is the thought that although I know he probly wont be, he could be with some other girl whenever he wants, I hide my jealousy well though!! A couple of guys recently have tried to hit on me and even though They were REALLY hot I couldn't bring myself to do anything and I think it was because I've fallen for this guy. It's a really complicated situation but any help would be very much appreciated!!!