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ok thanks i didnt think of that! i will just forward the confirmation e-mail when i get it!! I dont understand how one minute someone can love you and the next say we have drifted apart and i hope we can be friends one day! I dont know what you think but i dont think i could ever be a friend to her she has crushed me too much! Deep down you must still love that person?

I split up with me ex GF about a month ago and i have been in NC for only about 2 weeks. She e-mailed me yesterday to say that she has not changed her mind and how sorry she is that she has hurt me so much and how she is missing me as a friend. The mainreason she e-mailed was to tell me that i need to cancel the holiday we had booked together and i let her know when i had done it. The thing is i want her back as her reason for breaking up is we have drifted apart. So i dont know what to do? Do i e-mail her back? Break NC which i really dont want to do as its the only way i am coping with the break up. What would you do?

thanks for all your help and comments, over the past few days i have tried really hard to get out there and be my self again! tonight i sort of went out on a date with another girl, she was really nice but its just made me really depressed because its made me realise how much i miss my ex! so i will probably leave going out again with another girl as i dont think im ready! thanks for all your help its good to know im not alone

hi, 4 weeks ago now my gf split up with me after 4 and half years together. Ever since she has got her new job she has been too busy to see me and we would only see each other once or twice a week for a few hours each time. This has been happening now for a long time. I have realised this for some time and i tried to make her change and take her out for meals and things so when we were together it was still fun and special. But although it was good for about a week it soon returned to the way it was. So any way she split up with me and her reasons for doing this was she thought we had grown apart. She said she still loved me but not as much as she did when we first met and the spark had now gone. This was the worst thing that has ever happened to me and left me devastated. Of course i did the usual thing of begging her not to split up with me and telling her that if we both put the effort in we could make it work. But she had none of it and said she wanted us to go our separate ways and it was for the best. It has now been about 2 weeks since i made any contact with her at all and i plan on keeping this NC going as i feel if i keep annoying her it will just make her move further away from me. But at the same time i dont want to let her go. So really i was just looking for advice on how you would attempt to get her back without pushing her away? Or do you think i am wasting my time and she will never come back to me? Should i try and move on? At the moment i am hoping that if i keep up the NC in a few months she will want to try and make another go at it. Im just at a loss at the moment and would like advice as i really want her back. If she still has made no contact in a few months i might write her a letter asking if we can be friends and see how it goes with the intention of getting back together if it goes well and feels right. What do you think? I really dont want to loose this girl.