purplefences77

Sooo...my situation is still pretty much the same, but I've kind of gotten overmy teacher..well, kind of and kind of not. I still think about the guy a lot and what sucks is that the school year is soon to be over! Who knows if I'll ever see this man again! I think what's really bothering me here is that I've come to see him as just another person instead of some love obsession thing but he's almost like a friend to me now and I would LOVE to keep in touch with him as you would with any other friend but...it seems a little odd doesnt it? Teacher/student relationship, I dunno, seems a little risky which sucks because that's what he is to me, a friend. Older , yes, but a wonderful person that I love to be around and talk to about anything.

Well I do try spending quality time with people my own age and see if I can develop some kind of deep relationship (and I'm talking if I was together with that person, not just friends, because I do have friends my own age of course)but I'm not really impressed by what I see... My parents are older, much older than mosts parents (especially my father) but I don't know if that counts as anything... And what you said about crushes being driven by things...well, I've never been in a relationship with someone before (shocking right? I find it humiliating...) so loneliness is a yes...I mean, here's this teacher who's completley great and I connect with him better than anyone my own age...Where is this going?

Sooo..advances by the older man is bad and you should stay away from it...but I'm crushing hard for this guy and I can't let him go! (And no, he hasn't been getting close with me or anything). I mean, doesn't anyone ever get that horrible feeling once you realize you can't be with someone, the feeling of "Ah, once again I'm alone...and my life will go on and on and on, same old things happening day by day..."? And you bury yourself in this little hole of self pity? DEPRESSION I tell you...That's what I'm feeling now... It's so wrong but I want to spend every minute of my life with this man What's going on!??!!? There's other girls in the class that I'm in and it drives me crazy when they talk to him and he laughs and they obviously seem to be having a good time together...I start digging that little hole of self pity again lol...Jealous much? Big time. How can I get over this?

Great posts thanks. Guess I'll just have to see what happens...But if you guys got anything else feel free to reply.

Oh thank you guys so much! And yes, I could seriously ruin both the lives of my teacher and myself if anything happened...it's so hard when I'm crushing on him like mad though lol. God, getting over a crush like this is hell for me that I've gone through more than once unfortunatley... It's hard for me to find guys my age worth anything though, they just come off as another pretty face...I should have mentioned this before but I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual too so geezm who knows what'll happen in my future haha. It's either older men or girls my age I guess huh? Oh and Mythical_Suicide, what you said about older men not really looking for a serious relationship with younger girls, well, it's can't possibly be like that all the time right? Hey, maybe I look for the father figure and they look for the daughter figure and BAM. Heh, I don't know... Well...keep posting replies guys they really help

I'm not too great at getting right to the point but here goes... My problem is this: I crush on older guys a lot. And I'm not saying that I just crush on the older ones that are straight off gorgeous to begin with, I develop the usual crush through interacting with them and getting to know them ect ect. Now, I've heard the classic " you're searching for a father figure" thing before. I have a father. A great one in fact, couldn't get along better with him. So whats up with the old men? I'm sure that part of it is how I prefer them because they come off as more mature than guys my add (which I might add usually NEVER catch my attention) but what else? This really troubles me...I mean, here I am, 17 years old, and I have the habit of developing crushes on men usually 30 and up I don't get it... I feel wrong to have these feelings ( and I've also heard the one about dating guys your own age..yeah, let’s not talk about that one. Truth is the chance of me going out with someone my age is slim. Actually, I feel more comfortable around adults than anyone my age And no I’m not antisocial, faaaar from it, I just enjoy the company of adults as I like to feel understood better. So does anyone know how to help me out? And one of the main reasons I’m stressed about this is that it happened again and this time my crush is a teacher of mine. Rrrrgh it frustrates me so much! To like someone but realizing you can never be with them…boy does it suck.