Dallas73

Thanks Blindfold. Unfortunately, this isn't the first time I have acted out. Deep down inside I feel like things are bleak and last night's fight was basically the straw the broke the camel's back. I suppose I should give her space/time to rethink our relationship. Hopefully, she will also reflect on all of the good times we have had before she comes to any conclusion.

I do have difficulty with coping alone and this is where it usually starts-absolutely right on this one. I would say that it is more of an issue of impatience- there is a great deal of anxiousness to start working on getting things in-line again. I will start with setting an appointment today and ceasing jealous behavior. Thank you.

Thank you for the quick responses. I agree- the counseling needs to be done alone. This is something I believe I must do in order to be a healthier person in general. And yes, as of late the only attention that she has received from me is the "freaking out". I am not sure if I have pushed her away completely from an emotional standpoint yet- she has mentioned in our fights that I am beginning to. Unfortunatley, the communication that we have with one and other is simply arguing which prevents me from really finding out where she is with her thoughts. In anyone's opinion should I try a different approach- perhaps trying to be romantic once again? Or is this just like trying to mix oil with water? What are the first steps outside of saying that you are sorry and seeking counseling.

First post, so here goes.. I just wanted to find out if anyone else has ever had extreme jealousy and what steps might have been taken to get back on the right path. Anyone's input is most certainly appreciated. Lately I have had extremely jealous behavior towards my wife and I feel that things are at an all-time low in our relationship. We constantly fight due to my accusations of her possibly being interested in someone else and the constant barrage of questioning. Over the last several weeks things have escalated to the point of my wife threatening divorce and selling our new home. Unfortunately, we have a 2 year old caught in the crossfire and I want nothing more than to keep our family intact. My wife generally is a good person- she doesn't really do anything to provoke thoughts of jealousy outside of making a few statements about some of her co-workers being cute, etc. She comes home every night, does not stay out late after work or do much of anything to lead me to believe that there is an extramarital affair going on. Due to my feelings of insecurity though, I feel that what I bring to the table for her emotionally isn't enough anymore due to wearing her thin with the jealousy- this I fear will eventually lead to an affair with a co-worker. Anytime she does something to better herself I feel as if she is doing it to look more attractive for the people she works with versus just doing things to make herself feel better. I think I have crossed the point of no return with her as of last night by having an extremely jealous outburst that entailed the full scope of throwing things, yelling, etc- which ultimately forced her to try to pack and leave. Seeing her drive off scared me so much so that I got in my car and followed her- as we drove along the highway (safely, not speeding)- I begged for her to come home. She did- but said only to get a good night's rest before heading into work in the morning. The trademark things that I do to show my jealousy is; Calling excessively- wanting to know where she is, who she is with. Questioning why she is making changes to better her appearance lately, things such as tanning, eating healthier, shopping for new clothing that is outside of her norm. Why she doesn't call me at all- very rarely do I get a call from her just to say hi, in fact it seems as though I do all of the calling. I am a fit guy- I work out, eat healthy myself, etc. I am also a successful professional for the most part. People that I work alongside have no clue about my family disaster. I don't understand where my insecurities are stemming from, my guess is the lack of attention that I have been receiving from her over the last several weeks (as a result of the jealousy IMO).On her side of the coin, everyone in her family, her friends, etc. think that I am psycho and have a compulsive/jealousy problem. In this type of situation is there anything that I can do to regain her respect? Or is it too late? As of this morning she said that she does not know what to do or if she wants to try and make things work out. I mentioned that I am willing to seek counseling for jealousy and she stated that she isn't sure this would help. Any advice is appreciated.