My boyfriend and i have a complicated history. We love eachother very much and spend almost every day witheachother. We met while he was having problems with his exgirlfriend and i thought they were breaking up. He cheated on her with me then i realzed that they wrent breaking up right away. We became really good friends throughout the next year. After they did break up we imediately started sleeping together. I fell in love with him but he wasnt over the breakup and didnt want a girlfriend yet, so we were just friends. At this point all of this was very painful for me to go through, he started dating other girls, and although i was dating other people too, i would have given it up for him. Eventually we started dating, and now we are in a relationship where we spend all of our time together. I trust him not to cheat on me now, however, at the beginning of our relationship, he asked a girl to text him a picture of her boobs and she did and i saw it. things like that havent happened in a long time, but it still hurts, and i dont know if i should be over it by now or not. It hurts me so much and i get really mad at him when he talks to his ex, or when i have to see anything that has to do with her. Times i have known of that he talks to her was like 2 in the morning while i was in bed. and another while i was at the library studying. i guess i just want to know if i have the right to tell him that i cant be with him unless he stops talking to her for a while. i dont want to be that crazy girlfriend it just hurts so much. I hate the fact that she doesnt even know that when they were having problems we slept together. I feel that it isnt fair to her nor to me. he refuses to talk about their relationship at all and give me any reasoning for why he would cheat on her with me ( i wasnt really aware that they would get back together and i didnt know her, although i did feel bad) i love him so much and i trust him and know that he wouldnt cheat on me, but it still hurts, i just dont know what to do, and the fact that he has been sneaky, even though hes appoligiezed and stuff still doesnt help my trust
