A friend of my suggested that I try these forms for support or maybe even some advice. So here is what is going on in my life, excuse me if this gets to be long winded.
I just turned 30 a few months ago, a week before my birthday I walked into my mom and dads house, they are still married at this time I thought we were a very close family I went to there house 5 days a week to eat with them to spend time with them (I also have a 9 year old who adores them to death) we live close to each other so spending almost everyday was a normal thing – well, on this particular day my mom was visibly upset, and when I asked her what was wrong, she said that someone was trying to blackmail her – ( a year before all of this my mom and dad were having tons of issues in the marriage and I thought that it had to do with that) so when I asked her to tell me, who it was and what was going on she looked at me and said ……” I had a baby 38 years ago and gave her up for adoption, and now she wants to blackmail me” - needless to say I was in shock when she told me, but I love my mother and supported I had to problem adjusting to this. She sat my down and said that she (my sister had found her about a year ago) at that time my mom still had not told me and really to be honest did not want anything to do with her. Very sad, I know. In the email My sister said that she would like to get to know her brother and sister, after all we are 100% biological, my mom and dad married I think 2 years after they had her. My mom wanted me to call her and tell her that I am happy with my life and can not do this, so I did. But then after I did that and left thing clam down I called her back – I let her know that this was about her and I and not to involve my mom if something was to come about that, then great, if she wanted to get to know her sister.. me, that I am open to it. – On a side note, the day that I found out, my dad was not home he know that I know.. and the next day when I went back to there house, this “situation” was never mentioned to me again, my dad never said a word to me and no one asked me how I felt once I had processed the feeling. I also have a older brother – we never got along, I do not know why but he has always hated me. He does not know about our sister. He was not as close to my mom and dad as I was, also they never told a single sole, none of there family members know about this as well (so for me that was a lot to take in)
Ok, that’s just a little bit of the back ground. Here is the problem my mom saw an email from my sister, all it said was “hi, how are you?” she flipped out, she called me and told how mad she was and that I was not welcome at her house anymore. That was 3 months ago. I yet have to her from her, they never called me on thanksgiving, I have NO NO family what so ever right now all for the reason I wanted to get to know someone. I only live 2 mins away from them and this is killing me. I have no clue what to do anymore, I miss them but I am more mad at this at this point, how could they walk away from me too? And after 30 years? I just do not get it. I am sad.
After all of these issue, I have noticed other that have come about, I am not close to my dad, and have never heard him tell me that he loves me but I guess that is a different story, I think I will just leave it at that, if there are more questions, please ask.. I just was trying to get this out there to see if ANYONE has a similar situation and what they have done
Thanks for reading.. !!