It's been over a year since my boyfriend and I broke up. I broke up with him, and broke his heart. I have missed him for months and just recently told him how I feel. I still love him and want to get back together. He told me he does not want to get into any relationship right now, and that he is trying to make healthy decisions in his life, be more responsible, and count on himself and no one else. He needs to do these things for himself before being a good boyfriend.
He said does not want any added drama or stress in his life on top of school and work right now, both are very demanding. He said he does not feel confident in us getting back together right now b/c he feels it would fail again (we've been on and off for 5 years). We have maintained consistent communication since we broke up last Oct. I told him how I felt the weekend before Thanksgiving, and over a period of 3 days we probably talked on the phone for about 10 hours.
When I came home (we live in separate cities) we spent 3 out of 4 nights together (no sex, but kissing, cuddling, talking about how we felt, etc). He is very non-committal to any relationship question, but did say that he was open to us getting back together at some point. I am very unsure about how to feel, how to interpret what he wants, or what to do right now. I want him back, but he isn't making me feel completely confident (he says conflicting things sometimes). Any advice as to what to do/how to act, win him back? Thanks.