Hello Everyone.
I am new to this, it is my first post!
I am having a really difficult time getting over my ex. It has been 2 years, and I still have strong feelings for him. I have learned that he is getting married within the next month. To make matters worse, I've tried to date, tried to move on, but the chemistry with my ex was so great that I feel I need to find that same chemistry again to get over him. I've tried seeing this guy, and he is a great guy. I know that he could give me all that I need in life, very caring, honest and open, but I'm not sure the chemistry is right and I told him I don't want to see him any more. Does Chemistry change. Would I feel the same things about him in time that i once felt for my ex. Could I have put too much pressure on myself in finding the chemistry with this new guy that maybe I overlooked what was really there? I know I am hurting myself, and the guy I started to see and I feel awful. This new guy has been very patient with me, and we did stop seeing each other for a couple months when I asked for space.
I guess I am saying, just because I didn't feel that electric connection with him at first, is it because could be looking for that very same thing again, or am I just making excuses? Was the chemistry with my ex a once in a life time thing?
