i was out for halloween on saturday and while i was there my ex was there and she got the impression that I was ignoring her the whole night. i wasn't trying to ignore her i was just busy talking and dancing with another girl. she then came up later in the night and said "you know she has wrinkles". basically the girl i was with was older. my ex has said putdowns of sorts in the past like "i can't get a girl as attractive as her or if I did they would be lacking in other qualities." this is partly my fault though because I compared her to my old ex in the beginning and she still holds that to me somewhat.
Then after the bar closed she comes up and tells me that her grandma died and she didnt know whether to call me about it or not. i said i was sorry and wished she would have called.
After we broke up she said she wanted to know I could be there for her. Well here was a chance and SHE DIDNT call me. she is trying to be super independent and not rely on anyone, even me who she knows she could trust her life with.
I called her sunday and we talked for 20 minutes, about her family and the funeral. I asked if she wanted me to go with her to the funeral and she said thanks but no. ( she is kinda embarrassed of her family somewhat, they are a little crazy one of the uncles in the military said he would kill me if i broke her heart and he didnt laugh afterwards, but then we smoothed it all out- just to give you an idea. I suggested a movie then later in the week that she liked and she didnt give a 100% yes but seemed interested to go.
I sent her family flowers because I was sorry for the loss.
Fast forward to last night, went out again for halloween and she was there again. we didnt talk at all while there but we both knew we were both there and I talked with her friends that i know. I met another girl that night who is really cute but she is brunette and bustier. (my ex is blonde and more slender).
I think my ex may think Im trying to make her jealous but Im not.
I am worried that things I do will be taken out of context by her if i dont clarify, but then again id like her to actaully see she WILL LOSE me because the whole time we have broken up she has said "WE WILL PROBABLY BE TOGETHER".
its exhausting really.