i'm new to this whole forum thing but i heard from a friend that good advice is given or whatnot so i thought i would try it. i was with my boyfriend for a year and a half..we've had our ups and downs..which relationship doesn't right? we've broken up numerous amounts of times out of anger or pride but we always found our way back to each other. i've heard that it was a bad relationship from people that are close to me or that know the both of us yet we still try to work it out. it seems that when we argue it gets to the point where we're yelling and don't want to hear the other one and so on.
well..we broke up recently and i'm heartbroken. he broke up with me and was trying to work it out but i'm tired of the fighting and of how little things become so big. i'm not perfect but i don't know what else to do. the thing is.. he badmouths me to all his friends and family everytime something happens..it's like clockwork. we fight. he calls. we make up. he calls. fight. calls again. i'm sure they're wondering why we were still together after all that.
we broke up because he said that i'm not there for him when he needs me but how can i be there for someone who doesn't tell me what's going on or someone who says everything is fine but isn't? i ask time and time again to just let me in and he won't then says all i think about is myself.
i still love him but how can someone who supposedly loves you back badmouth you to people he cares about? i'm sure i'm not making sense. i'm just babbling..but any ideas on how to make things easier?
btw..we work together. =(
