I met my current girlfriend online and we talked for about a year as friends before we took things to the next level. We would spend hours online or on the phone and a relationship developed. She lived a long distance away and was planning to move to be with me. (we never met in person before hand). During the two months prior to her moving here, we'd agreed that we were "together" and that neither of us would sleep with other people. I was faithful to this.
She's been here for 4 months now and things are great (on the surface). I've recently learned from friends that live where she used to that she had in fact been in several sexual relationships lasting right up until 1 day before she came out here. I was given irrefutable proof that this was happening.
As I get to know her better, I'm discovering that she had lied to or misled me on many occasions during our "online relationship". She continues to do so now when I ask her about her life prior to moving here.
I've been holding my tongue on both of these issues for the sake of giving her a chance to show herself to be different in the offline relationship. Now we are talking about moving in together and I feel I need to resolve this beforehand.
Are her lies and sexual transgressions during our supposedly committed online relationship cheating? Does this mean that she will indubitably cheat again? If I confront her with the fact I know, and have known she's lied to me, is there a chance she'll change?
Thanks for your advice.
