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o sorry didnt see your response... i guess time will aid this then??? i mean shes not interested in me anymore, and it hurts, but love is a mutual thing i cant keep loving her if she does not love me back... but what im afraid of is the future... like being her friend is defintly something i would want in the future, like things just didnt work out, this relationship isnt ending "ugly" so to speak... obviously i cant be her friend now with all these feelings i have for her, but what is your advice about trying to become a friend with a ex girlfriend?? cuz right now i personally can not see it happening, but i know thats only because i am still madly in love with her. i thank you for all the replies your giving me heloladies, i really do.

how can i get closure out of this... ive gone through a breakup b4, that lasted a year and half... but the closure part was easy...my girlfriend cheated on me! i got over her in a couple of months id say, and a year later i started dating the one i just broke up with... this kind of situation is completely new to me, ive only had 1 real breakup, and it was easy to do because i had a very good legitimate reason... i have no reason to get over her, i NEED closure because its obvious that this relationship is already doomed because she wants it to be. Is there anyway i can give MYSELF closure and not depend on a explanation from her, or do i need to talk to her and figure out why excatly she is breaking up with me???

i guess its tough but i will let go of this relationship... but i have one more question, whats the best way to get closure of this??? she wont give me a reason like ive stated before, and like heloladies said, she might not know how to explain it... is it possible to create closure for myself?? its tuff to walk away from this if i have no closure =(

i dont know... she refuses to talk to me via phone or IRL... and this just happened randomly on a certain day... she says its not me, and that its just the relationship that changed and thats it, is she doing this to try and not hurt my feelings?? im getting no closure on this situation and its so hard to let go when u have no closure... she specifically said it has nothing to do with me and its not my fault at all... im so confused right now =(

thanks for the advice... she says she loves me but she doesnt like how the relationship was going anymore and that she liked it the way it used to be, but i wont chase... and as far as down the road goes, what should i do if a few months down the road she wants to get back with me??? or to be friends with me again??? right now theres no way we can be just friends but in the future is it a possibility?

Ok first let me give some backround about myself, im 19, in my 2nd year of college... And my girlfriend is 17, and shes a senior in highschool. We started going out around 6 or 7 months ago and things picked up relatively fast. Everything was going great till the end of summer... Then school started and she started a new job and i saw her ... 3 Or 4 times in the month of september?? She was being extremly distant, and when i asked her if everything was ok, she said everything was fine, and that she was just busy... Well ill fast forward a little bit and say about 2 days ago she breaks up with me... In a nut shell this is her explanation... The relationship changed, and that she liked it a lot better the way it used to be, and she doesnt want to continue to pursue the relationship because things wont change, things wont ever go back to the way they used to be... She also said that she cant change the way she feels, and that its not my fault she feels that way, but its just how she feels...She admitted that she still loved / had feelings for me, ...But at the same time she is pushing me away... This makes absolutly no sense to me... My friends just tell me that its not worth it, because shes being so immature about the situation (i forgot to mention she refuses to talk to me in person, or on the phone, shes only talking to me via text messages / aim convos!!) And that im better off without her... Now me and this girl... Weve gone through similar situations that not many people would understand, i wont get into the details about these things cuz its very personal, but even my closest friends never would understand completely about it cuz they never went through it... She went through something similar and its so hard to find ppl like her who can look past it and understand you for who you are... It was only 6 months which isnt that long in the scheme of things, but i really felt like we had something special in that short of time... I dont know what to do, should i stop talking to her? She wants space and time away from me to get over me... But i really dont understand why she wants to get over me if we both have feelings for each other... It just makes no sense. I want to know whats the best thing to do in the situation im in... I dont want to lose her.