I'm new here, and I don't know if I'm posting in the right forum, so forgive me if not.
i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we BOTH share in the problems of the relationship. The thing is, my boyfriend has an acknowledged anger problem. He even admits when something doesn't go the way he wants, most of the time he will lash out with CRUEL and hurtful words, he won't talk things out, and make me leave instead. He will look me in the eyes and tell me to "GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!!"
he is the type that pretty much blames ME for every problem we have. Plus, he is CONSTANTLY telling me that because of my age, (im in early 20's he's in mid 30's) I can't give him what he needs. It hurts to hear that because I try SO hard, I'm very faithful and loyal, and I really do my best. Im kind to him, and never once called him a name or yelled at him. I do annoying things, but he acts like I'm some evil person.
To get to the point, a few days before his bday, he swore that if I DIDN"T change MY behavior and start "acting like a woman" he would leave me.
He said if i cause one more problem, he will never see me again. That hurt, as if he was going to give up on me if I wasn't perfect.
To sum it up, i gave him an AWESOME bday, spent A LOT of money on him, pampered him to show him how much I love him, and afterwards he was the sweetest i've ever seen him. He'd been like that for days after his bday..... Well, I was confused as to why he was being so nice, and I sent him an email saying that if he still felt I wasn't enough for him, please dont' let me hold him back. HE BLEW up. now he is ignoring me, and won't talk to me for days. Please tell me, would a normal man, in a normal relationship treat me like this. It hurts, because it was just an email, now he is giving up on me so easily! I know I shouldn't have written that email, I've BEGGED his forgiveness, but I was confused because days before his bday he was telling me how I wasnt enough, then after his bday he was the sweetest ive ever seen him.