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thanks MG for that enlightening post. i think i've kinda decided that i shall let him have the space he needs for these next few weeks, since both of us are also busy with own business/work this month. i'm rather exhausted every day nowadays coz have to rush back from work and continue with my food business till at night. (but this will end by end of this month..thank God). will still go and collect my toiletries coz i've also got to get my brother's friend's dvd which i left at his house. but will do that when i find the free time. he's got issues.. i know..but from my observation, what his parents say dont influence him much, except i guess at this moment where he feels totally lost, not just with relationship but other personal matters. and i dont know why, but i seem to get men who are rather unstable in their life, be it job issues/money/health. perhaps its because i have an uprising career and wonderful friends & family, what's missing in my life is just the companionship, affection and attention of a man. and although i would like a successful man, i always have fear that he will be so involved with his job and travelling all arnd the world and i would be left alone at home. and i'm the kind who speaks my mind with the people close to me, that i sometimes forget my words could offend other people. just got scolded by my bro coz i send several sms to him which hurt him too..am trying to improve my communication skills at this moment. i just wish i could rewind the days and amend my mistakes.

[Very sorry for the text talk. i'm so used to it when i write emails,etc. hv edited my posts.] the divorcee and him are friends, and they worked together for a business deal recently. however, he keeps denying of having anything more than friendship with her..especially since she's got a teenage child and she's not his choice and he's still a young man, why would he wanna go after an older woman [sorry don't intend to offend any older readers] i did try suggesting to him via sms yesterday that we should confront the divorcee together. but he replied that he plan to shift house and change his mobile no. he just doesnt like confrontation... similar with my ex - when he got some bothersome phonecalls, he just changed his prepaid mobile no. anyway, i went to my bf's house this morning with the intention to collect my toiletries and to check whether he just need space or want to break-up. he wasn't home, so i just left for him some free car magazines which my brother's company published. then few minutes ago, i received sms from him " hey how are you?just got back and saw the mags you drop. the cars are beautiful. well, sorry about not meeting me today, had things to do in the city. whatever you need from the room is all yours. but the truth is i really want to be alone at this crazy moment.the last thing i heard my parents say was to let the women go. they are very careful when it comes to their son. hope you understand". (if you are confused with the end of his sms..i am too..but what i interpret is that his parents are very concerned with him as he's their first son, and his parents are back in UK, whilst he's halfway accross the globe with me] so..is this his indication that he's letting me go and break up..or he just needs his space for a while? i'm just tired of crying myself to sleep and feeling depressed. i wish if he's really not interested, to just tell me so that i can move on and find other men. coz i dont want to waste any more years of my life and end up old and lonely. i'm not the kind who mopes around in depression. i tend to make decision quickly and try to get into more positive note. of course i do love him very much and don't want to let the time and resources spend on the past 1 1/2 years go to waste.especially since we've already been talking bout marriage. but i don't think its fair that i have to be in this lonely angry confused mode for indefinite time. and i just don't understand what sins i had done to have this divorcee continually disrupt our relationship..

sorry bout the text talk. was just cutting n paste his email 2 me. we've actually talk several times bout marriage..and usually its him who brings it up.. he's a sagittarian [shares the same birthdate w my mom]..and i reckon saggitarians can be overly sensitive..judging from experience w my mum. and i'm the kind who just speaks my mind w my loved ones..without remembering how the other party would feel. what should i do? am contemplating so much to just drive 2 his place tomorrow morning. even if we can't sort things out, i still need to collect my toiletries from his house.

need some advice.. i've been with 30yr old my bf for bout 1 1/2yrs. there's this 40+yr old divorcee with a teenage child who had several times sms/called saying that she's my bf's girl.i had wanted to walk away from d relationship when this first occurred, but my bf denied he had any relationship with her & made me stay. our relationship had been sweet and loving, but this woman continued to occasionally disrupt things. last thursday[2 wks ago] she rang me at 1.30am saying that she & my man are engaged and they are gettin married at yr end. that had caused another riff btwn me & my man, but we patched things up the next day and he was really upset by that woman's story. then on sunday, i sms my man to say that "i had a feelin that he is with her". my man got upset & did not reply my sms/calls for days. i send an e-card on thurs, and he replied back with this.. "nothin actually wrong,cos u've already say whatever u wanted to say to me,and am just confused about all this..u made it worst for me by texting those words..if i dont talk to u or her i wont be facing all insult n embarrasment. this way i think is better for me,i have nobody to ring or text anymore.am like a free man now ..i guess this the best way to get over a situation..if god said we are one,nothing wil stop it,but from all this,am not sure.." then he sent an e-card with these words .."cos ur man is going to be alone for a long time." is he trying 2 break up with me?..or is he just equally confused why that divorcee is doing this? coz he did sms me today 2 say that he spoke 2 his parents on this prob, and all his parents said was to be careful with women problems. i'm just not sure why this old divorcee want my man so much. my bf had already told me that he had rejected her for long, but she still persist. i'm not sure who to believe..and whether we are on the verge of breaking up or what..