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Thanks for replying... But I think at the moment just asking her outright if she wants to be back or not...would only end in a "no". I think what she needs is TIME. May be it is not yet the right timing to ask her this question. It sounds that we are in a friendship mode at the moment, but I am sure she is in the process of "thinking", especially from her friend's blog post that I found. Obviously she has been talking about getting back with me to her friend and that friend had such reactions. I love her, but at the same time, I am moving on with my life. Yes, it is a bit slow-paced moving on in situation like this, but I am nevertheless still moving on with my life. In the end, I find I can still keep on loving someone, but I can let her go, and still keep the doors open. Yes, it is quite difficult to achieve such state of mind, but I am trying.

Hello everybody, I have posted my story here couple of months ago, and since then some changes have occurred in my efforts to bring my ex back... so here it goes, for all those who are in similar situation as me... To cut the long story short of my background scene... I met this girl at my work and she broke with her previous bf to be with me, but her bf found out about us and went and told her parents and her parents forced her to resign her job and called her home. Since then, she has been home for 3 months without any job. We continued our relationship despite the situation, but all of a sudden one day, she broke with me while I was abroad because of reasons I am still unsure of, (partly because of her parents, and MAINLY of herself, of which I still do not much know. But I think it had to do with the guilt towards her previous bf because she broke with him to be with me). I begged and cried for the first two weeks, but one day all of a sudden, I turned around and acted in a very mature way and agreed the break-up. She was quite taken aback by my sudden change in the attitude. I acted in a very dignified and mature way and said I complied with the break-up because I love you, even if I don't exactly know the reason. Since then, I went on NC. However she started to send text messages after about 2 weeks and then went on to MSN... I responded to her contacts, but I did not initiate any contacts. Now she has found a new job, about an hours drive from my place, and since her new job, she calls me very frequently. She just calls me sometimes to say she just got home... or have you had your lunch...or something blah..blah.. We also meet on MSN everyday and talk about the days work and other things. Initially I told her how much I love her but not to give her any pressure, I said let the nature take its own course and believe in destiny. If we are made for each other, we will be together in future. She agrees to that. I have made it a point NOT to discuss anything about our relationship at the moment. Now she sometimes comes by to see her friends (she has her best friend here where she use to work before.) and she makes it a point to see me. I have not made any initiation on my part to see her or anything, but sometimes do let her know that I would be happy to see her. I really love her and now it has become a kind of habit for us to keep in contact so frequently. We had no problem between us or any problem with the relationship itself, so we still care and cannot let go of each other. Just because of this, I am still hanging on, and seeing her developments. Since 3 months have gone by...I think time has brought about some changes, as I believe her guilt towards her previous bf may have waned away...and realises that she truly loves me... But I am not expecting anything. (Maybe I am totally wrong!!) Her best friend sort of tries to keep her away from me by giving advices like "if you break-up, you should break-up clean, no contacts anymore" to her, but we are very much in contact. The other day, her best friend had written something on her blog, something like this: "There is no right or wrong in love, but there are morals and values in real life. Do you really want to go this way? We had already discussed many things in the past and you have not stuck to my advice, and I am disappointed. I have no right to interfere in your life, but if you choose to love, I will accept, but I will be hurt". I really do not understand fully, but I think this friend is too caring, to the extent of interfering in other people's lives. Anyway, I am still waiting with patience, because patience pays in the end. What do you all think about my situation? How might it end?

She broke uo with me about more than a month ago and I initiated the NC, although only reponding to her texts and emails sometimes. We never talked about our relationship during those times. She then called me and set a date to see me, and she came. We then drove to a place where we use to hang out before, and then after sometime, we both became serious, and tears came to my eyes. I couldn't hide it, and she asked me not to cry, otherwise she would do the same. We did then talk about where our relationship was heading, and she still seemed determined with the break-up, saying that I should start looking for someone else. But she asked me for a kiss, a parting kiss, which I refused. She said the feelings for me are hard to go, and I said the same, but I said I am not going to deliberately try and let go of the feelings, I want to take it naturally. We then finished and she had to go back home, and in the car, I gave her a long kiss, to which she did not refuse. I asked her if she's stop contacting me, and she said she'd contact me on her own and would let me know of her being. We then said goodbye.... I am in NC again... but the pain now is like I have been to square one again.... Did I blow the chance??