ChandaSurya

My friend and I hold hands and act extremely affectionately around eachother. But even though I am an active participant, I am still confused about it all. Are we just being friends or does he think it's something else? I don't even know what I want. I'm 19. He's 31. But in many ways he seems way younger. My English and Nepali are good. His english is just a little bit worse than his Nepali (which isn't bad), but his native language is Tibetan. So there's a sort of language barrier sometimes, but despite that we talk a lot all the time. I call him "daju," which is like older brother, and he calls me "bahini," which is younger sister, but the way we act together doesn't suggest just a sibling relationship! We just really like to be around eachother. It's almost like we had a relationship in a past life! When is the friend boundary crossed? I'm so confused. I don't know what he wants! And I'm so much younger than he is. I feel like society is going to judge me.

(sorry to just jump in, I just signed up here. ) A little Ganesh is always good to have around. Also, now that Diwali (huge Hindu festival in India) is coming up, I'm sure there will be parties and get-togethers and such. Maybe you will be invited to one, and you can experience a bit of the culture that way. Ask questions. People, from my experience, generally enjoy talking about their culture to people that are genuinely interested. Maybe you could also learn some Hindi or any other language your co-workers speak. One of my American friends is learning a little Hindi and said one word in Hindi that was overheard by someone nearby, who immediately said (and completely in earnest), "You speak very well!" Oh yeah and don't automatically think that everyone is fresh off the plane.