chronicpainandconfusion

Well i've got to go to work, & no i don't feel comfortable discussing anything about what's going on with me on this public forum. I thought just maybe i might if it looked like people were cool & understanding here. But looks like that's just not going to happen. My username has nothing to do with the topic i posted about. And me seeing a therapist has nothing to do with the topic i posted about. So i'll just make that clear before i go. If anyone wants to chat with me using the p.m. or email feature maybe just maybe i'll answer some of the last questions being posted, but i have the feeling that nobody here is really interested in trying to be friendly. So this will probably be my last post or response. It's a shame though i was told that this site might be pretty good for me. Because they are supposed to tone down on the rediculing of others. Or just not allow it at all. Well i'm glad i tried it out anyway. Take care everyone.

Dako don't think it's a good thing really by any means. But i don't really think anything that is consensual should be considered rape. Maybe call it something else with a lesser penalty. But not rape. As for me i have no particular bent towards teenagers. I just find very few adults that are going through what i'm going through right now & understand it. And if they do they are way past that point in their lives & can't really relate. rodeo rider: Well i disagree. Especially depending on what the sentence would be. I saw something on t.v. i'm not sure if it was 60 minutes or what it was exactly, about this guy that's listed as a sex offender & considered the same as people that actually raped people because he had consensual relations with a 16 year old i believe it was. Now this guys life is pure hell. He's afraid to even walk by places where children are because he thinks someone in his neiborhood will think he's doing something wrong. I don't think he's allowed to move to another country either. I think he's petitioned for something to be written under each persons name on the public website that says a little bit about there particular case. But was not granted that. Now she is maried now & still states it was consensual & wishes the guy could go on with his life. Anyway to me a guy that has consensual sex with a 16 year old should not be labled the same as a guy that rapes some one at any age. Let alone a teenager or a child for christs sake. Well i'm not going to continue to reply to everyone because they are pouring in now. I'm sorry if i've offended anyone. As for the last post by southerngirl once again i sympathize with you but i don't think law enforcement should be able to do what you just stated. Maybe you think that's ok, but i don't. And i think it would be wrong & i think law enforcement should not be able to do that. Or do you think law enforcement should insult citizens & then arrest them if they say anything back. This sort of entrapment is not right in my oppinion if & when it happens. I agree with many of you'lls statements about what should & should not happen. But the point is, people don't always do what they should do or even what they want to do. And to provoke someone to do something that they wouldn't normally do is wrong.

see anything that would keep me from doing that when i skimmed them. Hmm. I was told that this forum was a little different than some of the other ones. I'm not so sure it is. At least i haven't had any personal attacks yet other than "Dude" which is not too bad lol. I appreciate your posts & i know your oppinion is out there. I just thought i'd give mine & hoped that, that would be ok. southerngirl: I'm sorry that you were raped. I'm surprised at some of those statistics that you pointed out. I'm not saying they're inaccurate but i don't have much faith in much of anything now a days, & surely not statistics lol. Especially if you can find statistics other places that differ. I'm not saying you can because i haven't looked i'm just saying in general on statistics. I'd like to think that statistics are facts like you do, but i tend to have a more realistic oppinion of them i think. At least that's my oppinion on the matter. Also i noticed that it looked like you grouped prepubecent & post pubecent together. And there are places in the world where having sex with a 16 year old, even a 14 year old is not considered illegal. Of course i think some of those laws in some of those countries might depend on how old the other person is. Of course i'm sure that you'd think that those contries, many of them european, are doing something highly immoral. But i tend to disagree. Of course personally i think that a huge age gap can be seen as immoral no matter how old you are. At least it just seems that way to me. I'm not saying i would never do it & actually i have had sexual relations with a woman that was twice my age before. I'm guessing that sense you've been raped that you are very sensative about this subject so i'm going to try not to say anything that would offend you. But i do think that you might be a little biased based on your experiences though. doyathink: Well with a name like yours i wouldn't be surprised if you're the one that goes around bashing questions you don't like lol. Maybe i'm wrong. Well i think you are being a little simplistic. And once again what if this 13 year old boy of yours didn't look 13. And according to southerngirl you can go all the way up to 17 with this discusion. Not every temptation is something that you did not desire before. New inventions are created all of the time & people desire to buy them. People change there minds about what they want all of the time. And people under a lot of stress & who are not themselves will easily do things that otherwise they would not do. Dako: Well perhaps your right in some cases. But i don't think you are right with all. And saying that adults are attracted to underage partners to feel power is something i don't believe is true. I mean that might be the case for some but i think that's a false statement for many. And the whole power rush statement. Like i said before if i gave into something like that it would be because i felt like i could relate to them not because i have some type of power over them. You're generalizing way to much here i believe. I'm not saying that law enforcement doesn't helps children doing stuff like this, i'm just saying that i bet they entrap a lot of people that wouldn't do it otherwise. Of course that's just an oppinion. Laws & those working for the law sometimes prevent unjust things. But injustice can be caused by those that create laws as well as those that enforce them. And the word crime depends on the laws & what are considered crimes in one place & in one period of time might not be in other periods of time. If you are blind to that i think it is you that might need some help lol. I agree that i need help lol. But i have a problem with people that think that they don't & then make narrowminded statements like you just did. DN: Thanks for your assessment. I hope that that is the case. However my lack of faith in law enforcement makes me think otherwise lol. And i'm sure that depends heavily on where they are. I would hope that these people that do this no the difference between tempting people & being persued. There should be things that law enforcement aren't able to say or do when they go about doing these types of things even if they are contacted first in my oppinion. And like i said before, i hope you are right, but i'd tend to think that they have the ability to cross the line & justify it by the mindset of the previous posters.

What's the deal with people that try to trap older folks into saying something or doing something that will get them in trouble with someone who is not considered to be of age for sexual relations with them? I'm mainly thinking about law enforcement. And people that do this kind of thing for a living. Especially those that go after males that are legally considered adults. I mean perhaps they are helping & keeping a "child" from having sex with an "adult". And probably in certain cases maybe even preventing rape. But i wonder how many times they lead people on & cause something that wouldn't have happened if they didn't tempt them. I mean i just joined & i just took a look at a lot of the ages on here, & i thought gee, i hope nobody tries to do something like that to me. I'm at a point in my life where i'm very weak & might be manipulated into having relations with a minor. I'm not talking about a child that hasn't gone through the changes you go through to phsycally become an adult yet. Why they even call that pedophillia is beyond me. (Because my understanding of pedophillia is an adult having sexual relations with a prepubecent child.) If it was someone i felt understood me. In many ways i almost feel like a 13 year old child in an adults body now a days even though i haven't always felt that way lol. Yeah i know i'm going to try to seek a therapist. Not because i want to have a relations with a minor because i don't. But because of other things & certain tramas i've gone through & how broken my soul is at this point. But anyway i just thought of this so i thought i'd post it. I hope nobody thinks ill of me because i posted it. I was just thinking out loud. I just don't like the idea of people entraping others into something that they really don't want to do & wouldn't do if they weren't pressured into doing it. For i've felt like i've had that done to me, not concerning this topic but in other things. By the way this has nothing to do with that congressmen or what ever his name is in the u.s. papers. I haven't read enough to know what was what on that. I'm actually not a big fan of the whole celebrity gossip thing. And i would probably shoot myself in a heartbeat if i was ever famous. I don't really trust the government, or law enforcement, but i'd trust them over the media any day lol.

1. Usually 29 to 39 2. No not really, i mean i'm getting money for it so i do it. 3. i don't like what i do lol. 4. No i'm not getting ahead, & i don't think i will if i stay with what i'm doing.