Hey! Guys, thanks for all the great advise. This is my first posting. I have been with someone for 1.5yrs. She has two kids(teenagers) from a previous marraige. I met her at the hospital (I was a doctor there). I moved to another state to join a new practice. Our relationship got deep and I moved back to where she lived. I bought a 5000sq feet house(her choice) eveything in it her choice, all I did was pay the bill. We loved eachother a lot but she always complained that I don't mingle much with the kids, I don't love them like my own. i thought I had good relationship with the kids it just that I'm not a Patch Adams kind of guy. We had a luxurious lifestyle and she loved it went to italy, palm beach etc. then1 yr into the relationship she complained that she will never be my wife etc....when will we get engaged. So she breaks up out of blue saying because the kids and me don't have conversations/mingle the way she wanted it so it's not going to work. I started NC it hurst because I'm not used to deep relationships. I moved on started seeing a banker. One month later she comes backs saying how sorry she was, she is going to make it up for hurting me for the rest of her like. It was christmas time, I dumped the girl I was seeing(God only know how much I hurt her) the christmas costed me another 10 grand. I was in the process of applying to law schools at this time so she wanted me to another school so that it would be convenient for the kids. I refused U of Miami, jacksonville etc. So foolish me, rejected the other school and agreed to go to another school. We got engaged, went to Europe for 2 weeks to celebrate. 2 weeks before school would start we went looking for apartments and schools. The day after we came back from apartment hunting she decided to that the relationship wouldn't work because I wasn't getting close to the kids/I don't talk to them that much.
This put me in a state of shock because I already got medical license and hospital privileges at hospitals to practice in another state. I was very lucky for applying to school where my family lives, they accepted me. I started NC and moved closed to my family.
Right now I go to law school week days and I practice on the weekends. I was getting better, meeting new people.
The problem now is, she has starts calling and telling me how sorry she is, how much she misses me etc...........she talks like nothing has happened. I feel like she wants to get back but why?............
I counsel myy patients but I feel I need help now. I see that you give great support
sorry for the long post
