Hey everyone, I'm new here. I didnt know where else to go with this question of mine. First of all, let me just say that I am not a confrontational person at all. I hate getting into arguments and would rather grin and bear it than to have people argue. Okay, so my problem is this: I had always been really good friends with this girl named Anne. A few years ago she moved a town over from me and our friends. She told me before that she felt like she was not being included in group activites. I reassured her that she wasnt. This past summer, however, i didnt keep in touch as much as i had hoped. I had gotten closer to someone that she had recently had a fight with and I didnt want to put the two together. In the beginning of the summer, I would hang out with both of them equally. It was usually me that would invite her to what the rest of our friends were doing. Towards the middle of the summer, I hadnt had time to hang out with anyone. When i finally had time, I got together with everyone and Anne. Everyone seemed fine and happy, but Anne was really bitter and mad about something. I tried hanging out with her again and she always seemed like she was angry with me (and our friends). She would never really talk...it felt like she was there just to get out of her house and not to spend time with us. I eventually stopped inviting her places because she always was in that mood. She had some really scary away messages that i think were designed to make us feel bad, but they only made us more sure of not inviting her places. Well it kind of snowballed like that throughout the rest of the summer and it wouldnt be so bad, but this year we're suite-mates at college. We havent made any eye contact in the 4 days that we were here. If we speak to each other, it's towards a group and not directed at each other. And we haven't been alone at all. I dont know what to do. I feel like it's really weird and awkward between us, but I dont know how to fix it. I dont want to apologize to her, because i dont feel like I did anything wrong. I tried to make an effort to include her. And it's not like she called me or any of our friends to hang out. I feel like she's just being stubborn. Now i don't know what to do. Like I said, I'm not confrontational so I dont want to talk to her about it and have her get mad at me and then make things even more awkward. Her birthday is coming up, so i don't know if I should get her a present and then write her a note explaining things. What do you guys think I should do?