Perplexed123

sssooo...we talked tuesday like nothing, yesterday i was in his area and i called him to tell him and he goes "call me when you get here"...so i did...yeah... cricket cricket so i was like ok...im sick of this so today he texts me and i respond to him about 3 hrs later...i called him at night to say hello because thats how he does it, and we're talking and he goes..."i texted you earlier and you didnt respond or anything!" and im like what? and repeats it and im like..."but i did, i texted you back with hey" and he goes..."oh...i didnt get it...you should have called!" WHAT?!? im not sure what game this guy is playing but umm...im getting a little tired of it. and i dont want to be crazy like "whats going on!" because ive only known him a few weeks...i'll never understand men.

hhmm i guess you guys are right. I've just never personally been in that random of a situation but i also know that God know's what happened.me. A possible scenario that my friend and i came up with was that maybe his friends (or him himself) pointed out that he was coming on strong or showing TOO much interest and maybe he should back off a little because, just as i have my friends telling me to not show *too* much interest because then he'll think he has me right there, he was given the same advice. who knows... this is all a game and one i dont play well. i just graduated from college and dating on the college scene is completely different because campus is like another little world. It seems you have to put in a lot more time and effort when dating in a city (or the real world for that matter) so i'm trying to get adjusted. Oh, and we're not THAT young, we're both 24.

Ok so here's the scoop...i met a guy about 2 weeks ago while I was out with friends. He was cute and seemed nice, danced a little, talked a little, so at the end of the night i thought "what the hell" and gave him my #, never expecting to hear from him again. The next day, i got a text like "hey its so and so..." We texted for a little while during the day and then he called. That started us texting/calling each other heavily for a week. We talked every day, quite a few times a day, and sweet little things were said, some corny, but sweet, like in one instance, i said "bf" and he said what? and i said "no my best friend" and he goes "oh ok i was about to say, that would be typical that i meet someone and theyre taken." I would get little texts of "thinking of you", etc. Sometime during the week, we went on a very casual date, walked around, ice cream, he actually bought us both something from a store (somewhat matching, it was a toy), etc. Later on i spoke to him and he said he had had a great time, that i was gorgeous and sweet and funny and he had no complaints and hopefully it stayed that way because i had made him happy. We continued to talk after that until... ...this past sunday. We were supposed to hang out and he was having a bad, bad day. The last time i spoke to him on that date was around 8pm. I was very casual and tried not to get upset. The next day he called me and asked what I was up to and i said i was on my way downtown, and he told me to call him when i got there. I did and didn't hear from him at all. Now i know he didnt say "call me so we can meet up" but i still got slightly annoyed (probably because what had happened the day before had happened) so i left him a voicemail like "hey its me, im downtown, not sure why you asked me to call because now i cant find you but if you want to hang out i hope you get back to me soon because we live a little far from one another, if not, i hope you're having a good day and call me if you like" didnt hear from him for the rest of the night...and today...we speak. As if nothing happened, very normally, at one point we were talking and i said he was horrible (jokingly, said it because he was falling asleep tired) and he said "i know im a horrible person but i promise i will make it up to you 10x" what the hell is going on..i have text after text and voicemail and convos of nice things said and interest shown. He's also invited me out with his friends at least 3 times. Obviously i'm not thinking "hes the one!!!' or anything at all of that sort but the sudden hot to cold back to warm thing left me really confused. any advice? we clicked and took a liking to one another so i would hate to "lose" someone over my demanding or expecting too much but the signs are just all crossed. thanks!