meandmoreme

I am in the same situation!!! I came out of a relationship almost 6 months ago. I met him completely randomly and we started talking (he also came out of a relationship around the same time I did). At first all we did is talk about our exes, but after a short while that quickly changed to getting to know eachother. We both knew he was only in town for a short amount of time (about a month), but in that month we talked everyday and even met up twice (the second time a date!). He is an amazing person, everything Ive always wanted in a guy but never thought existed. He finally left town last week, and I look back to this last month as one of the happiest of my life. I met an amazing person, who I really felt I had a connection with. Unfortunately, I know he's now on the otherside of the country and it isnt anything he wants... but like someone said before I keep telling myself if its meant to be it will... just like chance brought us together once, if its meant to be we'll find our way to eachother again. I know it sucks, I miss him a lot.. and lately we havent talked as much because he is busy in his new situation accross the country, but i like to think at the very worst, I get to take with me the great memories I have of that short time I knew him, and a much greater appreciation for myself and want in a guy. As much as I want something to work out between us, even if it doesnt I care about him enough to want him to be happy and move on without making it more complicated than it has to be. He helped me get over my ex, and Id like to think I helped him too... and I will NEVER forget him. Its wonderful that sometimes, we meet people randomly and for a short period of time that can make such an impact on our lives

Umm the circumstances are kind of complicated, he is in town for a few weeks and then he is leaving. We met fairly recently, and have been talking a lot and have hung out a few times. We went out on a date, which went really well but he made it clear that the relationship couldnt not continue as long distance (pretty much otherside of the country distance). We seem to have a really strong connection and have a lot of fun together, and in this short period of time have gotten to know eachother really well. It just seems like we didnt get to know eachother for too long in person and jumping into a long distance relationship right away wouldnt be good for either of us. I know that is not what he wants, and I am very hesitant about talking to him about it because he seems to have already made up his mind. I really wish things were different, but I think im just going to have to go with filling up my time with other things. I dont know if Id want to try long distance, but the fact that he seems to like me and doenst want to makes me hesitate to push it with him. It just sucks because I like him a lot

How do you deal with feelings for someone you like a lot and would want something more with (and have a pretty good feeling that they want more too), but also know that it wouldnt work out with even if they were up for it because of outside circumstances (like distance)??