Caine

Thanks guys I appreciate the advice, i'm 99% certain that's she really happy with the mortgage and stuff even if she is only 21, she very grown up wnd enjoys staying in a lot of the time, she's never really been into pubs and clubs. From all your advice I think she's just settled into the relationship is happy just the way things are, I think she's just laid back now and perhaps thinks she doesn't have to be showing affection all the time and probably believes everythings fine as it is. To be totally honest with you all, I smoke cannabis and I believe that i'm being paranoid and it's in my head, I can't be 100% sure of that but i'm gonna stop it anyway, just in case. Caine.

Hi all, need some advice. I'm usually pretty good at giving advice but I can't figure this one out. I'm 29 and my partners 21, we mostly get on great and have a mortgage together. for the last few months i've started to realise problems. I know women like men to show their sensitive sides, I was bought up with two women in the house so I am a sensitive man. I pay my partner compliments and it's become such second nature to her now she just say's 'Thanks' and I buy her gifts also and do romantic things for her. The problem is, I have a slightly low self asteem, nothing to major but I need to have the odd compliment too, but when we've discussed it, she just says she doesn't know what to say, i've given her examples but still, she never compliments me, she is quite shy and I think maybe she feels embaressed??? Also, she rarely ever buys me a gift or does a nice surprise for me or romantic dinner or anything, she also become very lazy around the house and hardly does a thing, she's become a little grumpy especially about her job and she just gets on my nerves nowadays, I love her loads, but I need to feel wanted, I feel I do so much for her and treat her really well but it's never recipricated, she doesn't treat me bad, but she also doesn't do anything to put me on a peddastool either. We've discussed this and she says she'll make an effort but nothing ever changes, What do I do? We get along well and she very grown up for her age, is the 8 year age gap a problem? Please help.