Pinkacorn

I started working out because my husband thought I could lose some weight - then when I got a major crush on the personal trainer he thought I was cheating on him. I can't feel good about myself without him feeling like I'm going to cheat and have sex. At the same time, the PT's life seems too good to be true - only working on his body and not really having a 9-5 job. I want that life - not the drudgery of this one I've got. So I feel like I'm cheating on my husband by wanting some other life. and it feels like a kick to the stomach when I see the pT and can't work out with him any more.

what would you say if a married woman worked out with a personal trainer because her husband wanted her to get thin and then she had a crush on the personal trainer - bone aching crush - kick in the stomach crush? Is it divorce then? Of course, the husband then said NO to the personal training and all of a sudden, losing weight isn't all that important. And then she's hooked and can't stop thinking about the trainer and him working out with other women. It's crushing.

when I was 30 I had many encounters with men on line and had an affair - after being married 5 years. It is all built up in their heads -- it's not real. For one, you have to like the way people smell... it's true, people have real-life smells that you have to like. Otherwise, all the typing in the world wont get you past that first primordial smell.