dogmama

Thanks for your help, ehmdoubleyou. I thought it was probably true that it is a natural guy thing, and I do know that some girls like it. I think it probably started at a low point in our sex life and then became habit as a tension release. We have been having some difficulties in our marriage (but not sexual - that is our number one way to makeup!), so I think it's all connected. We will talk more about it tonight because I told him I just want to understand a little more about it.

Just looking for some advice here. A couple days ago I caught my husband watching porn on the computer, and he quickly pulled his pants up and apologized profusely. I was totally shocked and half asleep because I had just come in to see why he was still awake at 2am. I was upset because I have asked him a few times if he watches porn, and he's always said no. He now says he didn't think I'd approve, so he lied. The lying bothers me a lot, and the porn bothers me a little, but I'm not sure why. Maybe it's prudish, but I just find it a little gross, and I wonder why he has to resort to it. We have sex pretty much whenever he wants, although there was a period after I had my son that it didn't happen that often. He says that's when it started, and he only does it occasionally, like every couple weeks. He is not proud of himself for doing it, and says now that he'll stop. I just can't help but wonder what else he's lying about (he swears there's nothing else), but mostly I want to know if the porn thing is totally normal for guys? I just can't get that image of him naked sitting at the desk out of my head.