Taylor31

Today i saw her in the halls like 3 times in the usual spots/times and we gave each other like half smiles and she looked like she kinda felt bad about thursday, should i do this tomorrow, what do u think, i was going to go up to her an say "hey listen everybody had made this all a big deal and it made me nervous i just wanted to get to know you and schools just about out, I didnt want you to think i was already asking you on a date because that would have been pretty fast" --something like that, hows that sound? then i can work it in the summer and hang out with her and hope things go well. Also i wanna make this clear, its not that im 2nd best, this guy an her have had a thing goin kinda for like 3 months, theyve dated and gone ot the dances but thats it theyre not together, and i never see them talk at school or anything so i can see why shes like whats the deal? So if she doesnt confront me should i do that? to kinda save my ass?

Hey everybody, i just joined these forums. I like a junior at my school, im a sophomore. At first i was worried about the age difference, especially since girls go for older guys usually. But i found out shes gone to the dances with sophomores and so that was a relief. After meeting her on a friday that next week on tuesday at school I walked up to her and one of her friends after lunch and asked what they had done that day for lunch, they said nothing so i asked if they wanted to go out with me for lunch on wednesday for block. She said sure and seemed excited. I had a friend come along and the 4 of us seemd to have a good time. That day she talked with one of my friends and said she thought i had been hitting on her lately, and was wndering if i liked her. He said yes..she then said she likes this other sophomore. Well i was aware that they had a thing in the past but i didnt know it was still goin on. I knew it wasnt a big deal, theyre not together or anything, just dating. I figured id give it a shot anyways, and be friendly about it. Make her think I just want to get to know her. I came up to her on thursday and was talkin about her laccrosse game and stuff, (I sensed that she was thinking "oh shit, i thought his friend would tell him about me an this other guy so i wouldnt have to say no") but i went ahead and asked cuz i didnt wanna look like a wuss. It became akward with knowing about her and this other guy but i went ahead and asked if she was doing anything over the weekend. She said she had some SAT stuff to do and then she had plans with this guy on saturday she said "I dont know if you know him but we kind of have a thing going on right now, I have to figure it out this weekend" basically what im asking you guys is this, what do i do now? I asked her thursday, didnt talk to her friday. She told me she had to figure it out. Which could mean 1 of 2 things. Either her attitude about it is like "ok other people are interested in me, we need to figure out where were at cuz if were not going anywhere then im goin to give this other guy a shot" or else it could be "listen lets start a relationship" Im hoping its the first one and shes goin to give me a shot cuz nothin seems to be happening with the other guy. But my problem is this: What if she doesnt confront me about the turnout of the weekend? Im hoping shell say hey listen you know how i tld you i had to figure out things between me and this other guy..well looks like were not going anywhere so we should do something next weeknd (something like that) or else hey me and this guy are going to start a relationship im sorry. If she doesnt let me know at all then what do i do? I think im goin to wait until tuesday..and then if she hasnt talked to me by then about it then I will come up to her and say "Hey listen..everybody has been making this a big deal and really it isnt, it made me nervous, I just want to get to know you before school gets out is all" (im switching to a new school next yr, i have to get to know her NOW!) Yeah so what do you guys think i should do if she doesnt confront me about it? thanks for your help, sorry this was an incredibly long post.