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Well, according to a study headed by Emanuele Jannini about 10% of women don't have a Skene's gland (the G-Spot). This is believed to be a genetic trait. You can learn more about the Skene's gland link removed. I highly encourage everyone to read more about Emmanuele Jannini's research. I'm not saying that his study is correct, his sample could have included a larger or smaller number of women without Skene's glands than is normal for the population. Unfortunately, the Skene's gland is also responsible for clitoral orgasms aswell. So, unfortunately there are women out there that are physically incapable of having an orgasm. I wish it wasn't true and that everyone could experience the pleasure of orgasms, but unfortunately evolution has yet to catch up with all of us.

I'm a man of numbers, being that I like to have hard facts and statistics. I've read a lot on here about women wanting to have multiple orgasms, or even one orgasm in a lot of instances. Here's a quick break down of orgasm capability of women. 10% - Physically incapable of ever having an orgasm 50% - Capable of one orgasm per night 30% - Capable of two orgasms per night (not multiple) 10% - Capable of three orgasms or more and/or multiple orgasms in a night So don't feel bad if you can't have multiple orgasms, seeing as to how less than 10% of women can have them. Now, you might be inclined to argue with those statistics, and say "But I thought all women could have multiple"? The fact is that, that is not true, like I said only 10% of women can. That misconception comes from the way our society places pressure on women to have multiple orgasms, because a man is "supposed" to feel bad if he can't get his woman to have multiple. Again, more than 90% of women can NOT have multiple orgasms. Hope that all of that helps at least one person. Although I think those stats will educate quite a few.

Now, I'm not saying that this is the case, but it may very well be. See, 10% of women can not have an orgasm because they are physically incapable of having an orgasm. If that is your case, then there's nothing you can do about it. Now, I'm not saying that you should give up in trying. Yeah, orgasms are nice, but they're by no means essential to enjoying sexual intercourse. You should continue to try, but do know that if you can't, it's not your fault.

This is her first serious relationship, and my first one in quite a while (I've had a lot of purely physical relationships in the past year or so.). So, I've kind of forgotten a few things. When we first hooked up about a month and a half ago we made out. Since then things have excalated drastically. Anyways, we spent this past weekend together and we went to third base, quite a bit. (She came about 80% of the time and I came about 20% of that time. It takes a lot for me to come.) Anyways, whenever we're together I always tell her that we don't have to move at our current pace. I'm letting her set the pace completely, so that I don't do anything to turn her away (I've known her for years, and I know that she is "the one."). I've told her we can slow down, speed up, or even move backwards to get to whatever point she is most comfortable with. Anyways, due to or job obligations, it will be at least a year and a half before we can move in together and possibly get married. So, I'd like to move at a pace that will keep this interesting until then. We're perfectly in sync, come from the same backgrounds and make each other laugh like crazy. Our friends have been telling us for years that we're a perfect match, and I'm starting to believe it. So, based on our current progress, are we moving too fast? I've thought about saying something, because I kind of wanted to get away from heavily physical relationships for a while, but I don't want her to think that I don't enjoy everything we've done so far. What should I do?