thought i'd give it a shot...since everyone was so kind in the lipo forum.
in mid-march, my fiance and boyfriend of nearly 3 years and i broke up. after many discussions, one night i finally said, it can't work if it keeps going this way. I meant for us to talk and see what we could come up with. he took it as i was throwing him to the curb. he packed up his things and left. after an angry first week, we decided that we were going to work it out and try to get back together. the plan was for him to stay living at his brothers, so he could save money and gain perspective on what he wants out of his life- he was really lacking drive and motivation and as a woman i felt a little insecure- i make great money in finance, am getting a phd, and have a great life- i did not want him to say, "i'm going to be a dr. or a lawyer" but i wanted him to have a plan- any plan!
Since then, we've been working on it, and it's been great most of the time, but he keeps slipping into these anger phases where he sees this as all my fault and says that i'm the one who has to prove i'm ready for a relationship. he won't talk to me when he's at home with his brother, he's embarrassed, nor will he let me come to any of our mutual friends' outings- it is taking a tole on me that we're having a secret relationship! it's not physical, once and a while, but mostly not, so it's not like he is using me for that. which makes this more confusing. well things were getting better, and then saturday night i get a call at 2am saying that he hates me, that i'm a **** and a **** blah blah- turns out he went out and his friends had a bash session about me and he's bringin up one or two nights that i went out with our mutual friend (a girl) and acted inappropriately! I have never cheated on him, never let anyone touch me, or anything- i will say that maybe i was flirty or whatever, but it was all harmless. Well, they apparently blew everything out of proportion and it caused him to freak out... so he won't talk to me, yet i got a text message today that he's still coming to mexico- on a vacation we had planned for in May- am i wrong in being confused? Either we decide that we're going to work through it and move forward, or we don't...why is he going back and forth like this? Is he just trying to hurt me? I can't help but wonder if he's just doing this to get back at me. I can't see past any of this because I love him so much and can't see my life without him... any thoughts? i'd love advice from guys or girls
