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I bet he is probably relaxing and not giving this morning a thought and here I am not working and stressing over this. Tried to follow Tigris advise... Only he won't answer... The priorities bit, now that I think about it, sounds likely. He is involved in so many things I guess like any true New Yorker always in a rush. He runs a youth group on weekends and travels with them from time to time. Then his job, and I should say mine also, are very demanding. But I guess I have allowed it cause these are "good things." I wonder if maybe he gets tired of balancing the three and whatever else and he sees me as the "easiest" to get out of? This is probably the third time he does a number like this in the last 2 or close to 3 months. We have been dating for 7 months next week. Actually the parent thing was a big deal. We had been in the same building once and he didn't let either of us know until after we left. "Oh btw, I forgot to introduce you to my parents." And honestly I was glad cause I didn't exactly feel ready to at that point. He said he didn't want to until he was sure about us... I didn't finally meet them until about 5 months of dating. They knew from the beginning and had began accusing him of making me up. They said he talked about me a lot but then parents lie to marry off their children. grrrr. I need to stop and get to work... Not gonna lose my job over this nonsense... Thanks for the different perspectives, I'll let you know how it works out...

Well to start I have never really done this before but friends haven't been very helpful. Anyways, I met a young professional guy over the internet about 6 months ago and after lots of verifications and discovering mutual friends I flew into New York from Michigan and we finally met in person. Now, generally I don't do the long distance thing, but things were going pretty well and I was planning to move to New York anyways so we began dating flying back and forth pretty consistently. He even drove up twice on surprise visits for just a day each time - it takes 12 hours one way making it about 48 hours of driving. I am now living in New York living about 45 min apart, but here is the problem. One second I get the impression that there is no interest and the "plan" is to stay friends because he feels he is wasting my time, I assure him that I don't want to rush anything just like him and do not feel like I'm wasting time but still we don't talk for several days... start to drift apart. Then he invites me to meet his family and I spend two days with them... Everything goes well family loves me. He loves me... a bunch of dates... great... Few weeks later... He says "Can we just stay friends?" with the same reasons. At that point i was frustrated and I made sure he knew - I really really hate drama... A few hours later he is at my door and He is apologizing and doesn't want to lose me and everything is back to normal. It has been like that for the last two months... Anyways, I'm sorry this is so long... maybe I'm just venting. We both went to a conference this weekend. We spent meals, free time and so on together... Good times lots of laughs. Today we had a quick brunch together and we both went to our respective rooms to pack, I had one short meeting, and we made plans to meet up before he went home and I fly out of state for a month... Anyways, an hour later I get out of my meeting to find him... I txt him... wait... finally out of frustration I head to the airport and decide to call. Turns out he is home, a two hour drive, claims to forget that we were suppose to meet and that I was flying out. Now normally he is always on top of things and can say word for word things I said and did months ago. He is an asset to him community and business and is a very loving and caring guy. We get along very well and match physically, mentally, and spiritually except that every now and then he switches on me. Is this normal in a relationship? Do you really forget to say goodbye to someone you care about? I mean jeez only god knows if I'll come back safely. I could be over reacting but we both do a lot of traveling and we always make it a point to meet up before leaving. He swears there is no one else and I trust him (he tells me when he sees his ex... details, thoughts, everything just incase I get the wrong idea). I love the guy and he not only says but acts like he loves me too...I'm mad, I'm hurt, but mostly, I'm confused.