Yeah you're right,
Pre-emptive is the best way to go, I've not been misleading to my new girlfriend at all and I don't feel I've done anything wrong. Just a few times I did go round I forgot to mention it, then realised some time later that I could and should have but that it was perhaps a little too late. Apart from that I didn't want it to be a cause of bother at the time, as I don't like her being upset especially now she's pregnant.
It was nice of you to think I've a heart of gold, I wouldn't go quite that far. Guess I'm not such an awful person though, lol.
Telling my EX to *bleep* off was not what I really wanted to do but I suppose I will have no choice. I really find it difficult to be so blunt though as I didn't want our relationship to end this way, although it's not been the loving relationship I was missing for years it was a comfortable arrangement, with neither of us being particularly unpleasant to each other. I don't mean her any malace either and I don't enjoy being the cause of further pain to her. Suppose I need to think of myself here now.
I love my new girlfriend SO much though I will do WHATEVER is necessary to keep things together.
Thanks again ToolGirl, your a nice person.
KipperBoy