timeless9

Thank you for all your comments, most have been helpful. I do know her very well as it is, I have known the family for awhile, we chat online quite a bit and I do stuff with the family. I did not think of her as a possible girlfriend till a few months ago, I dont really know what triggered it but feelings are hard to control. As many said it really does depend on your culture, and your town... Some towns may be very reglious, where others are a football town, and some like mine, majority of the youth drink. She has avoided alcohol as I did till I was 21. And again as many have said once a girl hits 21 they tend to check out the bar scene as I did also, but most bars are smoking, I cant stand smoke.. I feel worse then when I have a hang over the next day. But I may be blind, it can do that to you, she may be too immature to handle a relationship. Who knows at this point.. I would rather not take the risk. For now I will wait till she is 18, Its probably best. I was rather shocked this many people posted, thanks

Well I think my problem is I am attracted to religious girls, homey, good values. But I am not religious, I am agnostic. Anyway, said what I needed to hear, thanks for your input.

Sorry, guess I didn't write it clear enough, when I was younger I felt that way. Now most girls I meet are only in the bar sceen. But anyway, thanks you put it down straight and simple.

It is not illegal where I live.

After finding these forums on a google search I have read multiple posts. I am sure I will get mixed views but thats why I am posting here.. I know some of my friends will frown apon, where others wont have an issue. I am friends with her brothers and a good family friend. One of the brothers know how I feel, I joke around more then anything but he knows whats up. It seems the only thing that bothers him is the age gap, but I think it can be overcomed. The other brother would probably freak out a little, but if I sat down and talked with him, that I am not just out for sex, it should be ok. I am also worried about how the parents will react, I dont want to tarnish my relationship with them, I value them as friends. But I believe I really do like this girl, she has many of the properties that I am attracted to. I should point out I have never been in a relationship, for many reasons. I have always felt and been told I was very mature for my age and found girls my age too unstable and/or immature. Even now most girls are just into the bar sceen which I am not, I hate smoke. I dont want a girl that will sleep with me the first few months into a relationship, if they are willing to do it with me then who knows who they have slept with. But I could be reading the signals all wrong and she just sees me as a brother figure, then where would I be? ... One post I read said that girls at that age havnt found themselves yet. And later on the relationship doesnt work out because of this. Could I see this happening? Maybe, I know college is what I call "the test of time", I have seen many relationships fall because of it, and some are just fine. She will be turning 17 before I turn 24 but 6-7 years just sound like a stretch. She seems emotionally stable and mature, which is probably why I have an interest in a 16 year old. Any insight would be wonderful, Thanks in advance.