martin

But my fear is that they will still think its a phase and tell me that i will grow out of it. I can easliy ignore that statement from them but deep down it will be playing my mind that my parents don't like my life style and i feel that the feel a shamed to have a gay son, and thats the main reason why they are not saying anything. I know there is no way to make them accpet that im gay but i really don't want to be worried of upsetting them if they found out i had a boyfriend and i have told most of my work mates (All female), and even worse if they find out i have told my brother and not let them know.

Hello, My name is martin, i have just turned 19. I told my mum i was gay when i was 17 (18th April 2004) I will never forget that day, was the hardest thing i have ever done. I have a part time job as a sales assistant but am training to be a assiatant manager however... When i told my mum i was gay, I told her first, as i am closer to my mum than my dad. When i told her she was shocked and told me that i had to tell my dad. When i told him what i told my mum, they asked me questions like have i ever had a relationship with another male etc. At the time i hadn't but i was attracted to lads no doubt about it. My mum and dad said it was a phase that many young lads go though. But i knew it wasn't and even though i told them that, they decide that it was and i would grow out of it. Ever since that day my mum and dad have never said nothing to me about it. Its well over a 1year and a 1/2 and still nothing said. They are hoping i grow out of it. Since then i have met lads etc but in sercret, I am starting to find it hard to keep a sercet now. I don't know if i should talk to my parents again about it or not. Im i rubbing it in there faces. They talk about girlfriends and ask if i like .... etc but i always say no, is that a way of them asking me about my sexuality. Another problem is my best friend shes female and shes always round at my house, Many of times my mum and dad and even brothers have asked if i go out with her. I just say we are friends. By the way i have 2 brothers on 21 and the other 15. The 15 year old knows i am gay and hasn't got a problem with it, but my parents don't know he knows. As far as my parents know only one person knows and thats a mate from my school years. However all work know and are very supportive and have helped me a lot when im feeling down. However im not sure what to do now as i want them to be able to acpet it so i can have a boy friend and basically live my life without everything been in the dark. Has anyone got any ideas on what i can do. Thank you Martin