IzzyBrowny84

hey everybody, thanks for all the advice you gave me. I read all of them but at the time had nothing to say. I had things to figure out. well, this is what has happened up to date. I decided to stop and not take it any further. I'm staying by her side as her friend and we will leave what happened at that. things got better with her, and she just told me she is pregnant. I'm happy for her, and luckily things worked out like that and they were able to figure things out. I got deployed and I haven't seen her since November. we still stay in touch, but on friend basis. I also just recently met someone and she's single with no strings attached from prior relationships and it's woking out pretty good for me. thank you to everyone who posted and helped me out. I hope someday I can give you advice. I will definitely share this experince as something learned. again, thanks everyone!

ok, I'll try and make this short ... her and I have been friends since junior high, (we are 22 right now) and I recently got divorced. we've always been good friends. I've always had a thing for her, but I always thought she was "out of my league" and I never had the guts to ask her out. I'm away a lot due to my work, and I'm living in another state for now. I went home on vacation recently and spent some time with her. I found out she had feelings for me and if I would have asked her out, she would have gone out with me. I know I know, I should have done it, but didnt. anyways, I came home to visit my family and during the time I spent with her ... we kissed. It went a little further, but she is married and couldn't let it get crazy. I know I shouldn't have touched her, but ... I couldnt help it. we had a great time going out, and she treated me better than even my wife while I was married. She would take me out to eat, and while I had my son with me, she treated him great! If she wanted a piece of *CENSORED* *CENSORED* *CENSORED* from someone, she could get it. why me? and why would she go through all the trouble just for that? thats not the only thing she does for me, on my birthday ... the only gift I received was from her. she always stays in touch with me, and wonders how I'm doing and how things are going. MY PROBLEM is that when we talk, it doesn't sound like she plans on getting divorced. I'm a guy, and since I've never ran into this situation, I feel weird asking her about feelings and emotions. I'm trying to keep it manly here! ya know? she knows that I'm away a lot, and I dont think she would be interested in a long distance relationship. Her husband (by the way) does not treat her well at all. he drinks all the time, I've heard of times that he's abused her, and never seems to appreciate anything she does. so .... should I ask her what does she want to do? should I wait until she decides whether to get divorced or not? should I forget about what happened and never let it happen again????