confusedsoul19

well see, she tells me she needs time to think, because she wants to either be with him for ever or me forever....thats it...she says there is no one else but us 2. And i've talked to her mom about it, and she says just give her time and space....and her brother too, said the same thing....i really love her...even tho she did what she did to me....i cant move on.....i really cant....i dont know how...

ok, well, i been dating this girl, Samantha, since 9/9/03. We had a nice relationship, we were in love and thought we were soulmates, and talked about getting married and having kids and being a family our whole relationship until....i joined the military. Then things started to get rough. I joined in like April 04, my senior year of High school. I told her i love her and this could be good, but i also didnt want to go. So i was supposed to ship out to basic training in June 7 2004. Now the whole month before i was supposed to leave i tried everything i could to get out. because i didnt want to leave her. So my recruiter told me to tell the drill seargent that i was having panic attacks, and then i should be discharged within 2 weeks. So i was just gonna do that....realizing later on in life i didnt even have to leave for this stupid crap to begin with. But, i left on june 7 2004, me and her were together 9 months at the time. I graduated high school on june 4, and that nite, she was at a party wit her friends, and i was gonna pick her up. this dude when i picked her up wanted to fight me for no reason, i never met him or nuttin. But i drove off wit her and he thru a beer bottle at my rear windshield and shattered it. i whipped my car arund and was gonna hit him wit my car but she told me not to. so i went home and called the police the next day. and they couldnt do nuttin bout it. So the nite before i was supposed to leave, i was wit her at her house, and she told me she loved me, and i walked away, saying "i know". no hug or kiss goodbye, that was it. that was a bad move on my behalf. So i left, thinkin i would be home in 2 weeks no problem. I was wrong, being i could write or call no one for 1 week, that sucked, because i went thru 2 1/2 months of hell. When i got back, she told me she was pregnant. She said it was mine. Then a few weeks later i found out she cheated on me, and that the kid was his. Well, i was pissed. But luckily this guy was in jail forever, and he still is, he keeps screwing up and gettin locked back up. So i stayed wit her and she had the baby in march 19 2005. I got the paternity test, im not the father. So, i still stayed wit her till recently. and the father is still in jail till at least april 06. Recently, she broke up wit me, saying she wants to be with him, she loves him and wants to give him the benifit of the doubt he will straighten up and be a father. And she is leaving me in the dark. Meanwhile, im in love with this girl, that i've been around for 2 years now...going on 3. And she also told me when she dumped me, that she cheated on me before this guy...back in like the first 4 months of our relationship, she said she was drunk and had sex with her brothers best friend, who was gonna start dating Sam's best friend. I felt so sick when i heard that....i was just shocked! and she still talks to this kid, saying they're just friends and what not. but i dunno. But i still love this girl....and still wanna be with her till the day i die, but she's just ignoring me a lot lately....saying she needs time to think about who she wants to be with....me or the baby's father. Meanwhile, i have to record, i stay out of trouble, i have a car, and a job...im in debt tho...but im gonna work my way out soon. but i wanna be with her till the day i die. But im sooo heartbroken, right now...because she wants to be with a criminal that she was with for like 3 weeks and all she does is write him and see him in prison once a month wit the baby. he tells her that he loves her and wants to be a good father and be a family and stuff. But...he cant love her...he hardly knows her, and she hardly knows him....and she's known me for 2 years! Im so confused....so is she...i need some help, or some advice to convince her to stay with me....