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I really thank you all for your answers. I do feel that I have to give a little more details about the problem in order to get answers more focused. The thing is I am the one that have tried many times and is still proposing massages and kisses and more. The problem is that my wife is not into tenderness, giving, feminity etc.... I terribly lack of kisses and huggs and caresses... My wife is more into sport, work, internet, soduko and of course raising our child than arousing her husband, surprising him with a dinner table of even a new dress... Are these excuses or are they legitimate needs I have?

In the past, almost from the beginning, I seemed to look for any excuses, anything that I disliked are made me angry, to "punish" her and withhold sex. Almost 3 years has passed and today we have 1 little girl and waiting for a new baby next February. Today our sex is inexistant. And it is not because she is pregnant. It was like that before, except some very rare sparks explaining her pregnancy. Now I think my wife is wonderful in many senses but I seem to have lost all interest. I feel lost and frustrated and she is too. We both cary a lot of frustrations and whenever we try to talk it is very hard for both of us as we throw things at each other. A lot of tension there. Any suggestions?