I've been married for almost three years. Before we were married, we were the happiest couple anyone could imagine. Our first year was a bit rough, but we got through it. The next two years have been for the most part good, with a few exceptions thrown in here and there. Then, a couple of months ago, I lost my job, and just didn't have the motivation to get another. I was in school full time, and wanted to focus on that. My wife thought I was depressed, and asked me to see a doctor...of course I refused, unable to accept that.
Last week, I finally hit bottom, which is both a good thing and a bad thing. My wife and I had a heated argument, which was ended by me grabbing my gun and going into the bathroom. I don't know what I intended to do there, but it upset my wife so much she left and has not been back since. At the same time, this was my greatest moment...I realized that I was seriously messed up, and needed help. I went to the doctor a couple days later and got some counseling and some medicine. It turns out, from as much as we could figure, that I suffer from a genetic form of depression, which has been building in me for 29 years. However, the doctor said that medication results in most people being completely healed of it. In talking to others, I learned that depression can affect so many parts of your life that treatment for it usually makes a person unrecognizable when they are well. I'm hoping this is the case with me.
I love my wife dearly! Now she wants a divorce. She made an appointment with a marriage counselor, but then told me I wasn't allowed to go. At the counselor's, she said that he encouraged her not to work on the marriage, but to figure out how to best go through a divorce. (Doesn't sound right to me). I don't think she mentioned to him that I'm getting help for my depression, and what affect that could have on our marriage. She seems set...like she's made a decision, and now she's going to stick to it no matter what.
I'm leaving in three days to move 2000 miles away. It's the only way I can support myself. Does anyone know what my options are? I'm getting help, but I don't know how to get her to agree to see a counselor together. I really want to make this work, and think with time, I will be better, and she will see that. I just don't think she'll wait.