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hello, so yesterday my siblings and parents decided to pack up their stuff and head to california for the rest of the week. without me. i am pretty sad about it and have cried. i definitely feel left out. they left me to watch the dogs. they didn't want me to come with them. and it's ridiculous cause i'm the oldest sibling but they don't care. i also don't have friends so i'm pretty lonely. any tips on how to overcome this sadness? thanks.

Ok so, heres the thing. I support the community and all. But I am not part of it. I do have a brother who is gay and my sister says she is bisexual. Now, they are both constantly harassing me and telling me that I "should embrace the lesbian that i am" now, we all are in our twenties, I am 24 and have been a straight woman all of these years of my life. I have had times when i've been attracted to a few gay men but I have no desire for women at all. But my siblings keep telling me that I am Lesbian. I have had old gal friends that we were close and even one tried to hit on me but I rejected it. I don't know if I give off lesbian vibes? I don't typically wear makeup often, I don't dress up much, my hair is a bob cut and I have never dated anyone. I usually get rejected by the men i like and also i do not trust online dating nor want to conform to the society hookup culture. Not for me. So i stay single. Anyways, what do i have to do to prove that I am a straight woman? Or at least get them to leave me alone? This is getting very annoying. Thanks.

Hello so last week I had an argument with my sister and decided to go stay with a friend for a few days. I came back home and found out my stereo system has been stolen. I bought these speakers from our dad for $50 since he moved and sold them to me. My sister got the wrong idea that I "abandoned" the speakers, took them out of my room and she refuses to give them back. Our bedrooms are next to each other and so now she blasts music with the bass really loud all day. I politely told her to either give me the speakers back or zelle me the $50 if she really wants to keep them. She is refusing to do either. Our parents won't get involved since they live in their own place (we rent from them). So.. what can I do? She is selfish and nothing will get solved. I'm not about to get a lawsuit involved. Thanks.

No, we don't live with her. We rent it from her but it is still her house. And i really don't have the finances to move out. Not in this economy.

So heres the situation, I have past posts explaining my stressors and things in life. Now, I let my mom know that our house isn't the cleanest right now because my siblings are trashing it (She let us rent her old house) we are all in our twenties. I'm not going to be the only one cleaning after them and because of this, we get in verbal arguments and unfortunately, my devout mormon mother believes that her LDS faith is the only way to live life. She said this to me "I think you were a happier person when you were mormon, living the gospel brings peace, we all need holy ghost help everyday, I can't help you, but god can.. it is all connected" so, us siblings all left the mormon church because we do not believe in it. Our mom doesn't seem to get that. She literally believes the answer to all your issues is Joseph Smith and GOD. Which I think is all a load of bull. Church can't perfect your life and make it better. How can I explain it to her without offending her? Thanks!

Alright so, i have been feeling really stressed and unable to feel happiness and i think it's because of my job situation and living situation. So, me and my siblings' mom and stepdad moved out 2 months ago and left all 4 of us (we are all in our twenties) with the house we grew up in. Now, my sister whos 20 was able to get away with not paying rent this summer. Which, caused stress. And I work two crappy food jobs which i hate and i am unable to find work anywhere else because i do not want to do anymore college and also I can't pass the driving test. I practiced a lot and took the test three times and failed badly but I choose to not be on the roads. Also, i can't even afford to get a car anyways if it worked out. I am in debt with my mom and the credit card company and im worried I won't have enough money to be able to pay anything, also with prices going up groceries are expensive. So, what should I do? I'm not sure my siblings will be much help with sharing the house. I also don't have friends. My siblings are also very messy and don't wash dishes and i won't be the only one cleaning this house. My mom suggested that if it doesn't work out we can go live with her, but we really don't like our stepdad. Will things get better?

Alright so, I have a pretty non existent love life. And im thinking something may be wrong with me. So let me start by saying- I am a 24 year old straight female. However, I have only ever been rejected by one guy who i tried to date and that has gotten me to give up on dating altogether. Now, if you see my past posts, i have a weird crush on rockstars, which is obviously not attainable. My thing about relationships, is I am nervous to date, i am not into hooking up at all and I am afraid to kiss too. My siblings who are part of LGBT think i am lesbian because I have never dated a man before. However, I am just too nervous. I feel like I have to prove it to my family that I am straight so they stop telling me I am something that I am not. I also don't think i'll be trying dating apps since they are for hook ups. I just want it to seem okay in life to be alone and not be in a relationship. Co-workers get shocked when I tell them I am not with anyone. Is something wrong with me?

Hey guys, thanks for all the comments. I know it will get better. I am going to speak to a therapist. Hopefully I don't go through this sadness again.

Anyways, this is gonna sound weird but I had a parasocial relationship with the lead singer of Greta Van Fleet. Anyways. Yesterday he came out gay and I am absolutely devastated. I went home and cried about it for 30 minutes. Then today I woke up and cried again in disbelief. I mean, it makes sense that he would come out cause if you look him up it is obvious. But as a straight female, I saw the SNL performance on tik tok and fell into a trap and fell hard for him. Now I feel like I need to reevaluate my life. I have never been in a real relationship and so i tend to lean toward parasocialships and musician obsessions to bring me joy. But now I feel very sad. What can I do to help me through this? Can anyone relate? I know I sound crazy and probably need help but I need advice. Thanks.

Alright so. This situation is interesting. Let me start off by saying from day one my sister and I have seemed very different and it has seemed like bad blood has come between us. I am 24 and she is 19. Yes, unfortunately I live at home due to finances and eventually this summer hopefully will be getting a place with my brother so I can move out. But that won't be until July. Now, my sister also has struggles with mental health and makes the wrong choices in life. I try to tell her to be careful with the choices she makes and she gets offended thinking that I am "calling her a ***" We also share a room since our parents' house is only 3 bedroom and so she always locks me out of the bedroom all times of the day (besides bedtime). She also changes her clothes literally 15+times a day and in this process she leaves a huge mess of clothes and garbage literally all over the room. I am becoming very stressed over this since I am a clean person. I hate mess. All of this has made my mental health worse. Now, I am in a tough situation financially and I do not have friends that I can go to and stay with. I also have family on the east coast but I have my jobs here. I'm not about to up and quit my jobs to run away from living here. My mom knows whats going on and says "keep your distance and be nice to one another" I just need some advice on how to survive these next few months living under our parents' roof. Can anyone relate to a ridiculous situation with a sibling?

I decided that the mormon church was no longer for me. I attended mass at the Catholic church and met wonderful people there and felt like it was right. I finished RCIA classes and got baptized. I am blessed to be Catholic.

So I just got baptized Catholic tonight after being mormon/latter day saint for 10 years. Does this cancel out the mormon baptism and blessings and im officially only catholic? Also, I do not want to have to contact my bishop to remove my records from the church. Any advice? Thank you!

Hello, so today I took my second driving test. And guess what? I failed. Again. I feel so discouraged. Everyone around me who has gotten their license has said "You can do it!.. it's not hard" etc; Easy for them to say right. But I have severe test anxiety and am currently on medication to control it. But it doesn't fully take away the anxiety of being tested. Also I begin therapy next month. But anyways, I have no idea how I am going to continue taking the driving test over and over again. I have no friends who can take me out to practice. My parents are always busy and say they can take me out to drive but don't take me out enough. And I am 23 years old and my parents are forcing me to drive even though I really don't want to, but I also don't trust public transport and where I live the bus is near to non existant. I just feel like a huge failure. I also feel like some pretty girls that get passed the driving test first time sometimes only pass cause of pretty privilege, which I don't have. Anyways. What can I do for myself mentally while also I guess continuing to practice driving? Cause failing like this keeps making me feel awful. Thanks.

Alright so, little backstory, my mom got remarried last year. Flash forward to now, she is still in her honeymoon phase. For the past 8 months now pretty much. She is with the love of her life. Now, theres something she told me that made me feel awkward. And i kinda doubt she was joking. Basically, I was in the hot tub that she has at her house that me and the family like to use sometimes when we come over. Tonight, I was the only one out there and she came outside to the tub to put chemicals in. At some point in our convo, she says "Now, me and your stepdad are gonna want to get in so you should get out soon.. we do like to skinny dip" and I honestly was disturbed when she said this. She sometimes lets things slip cause I guess we have a close relationship but sometimes she says too much information. So now I feel disgusting to use the hot tub because I believe they may be doing other things. I know I sound crazy and i'm probably not far off because it is her house and she can do whatever. It's just.. should I not use the hot tub anymore? I don't know if it is normal to be this disturbed about it. I also think it is rude that they would do that sort of thing if other people are using the tub too sometimes. (Of course when they are not in there obviously but germs and bodily fluids could still be in there floating) I just also feel bummed cause the hot tub is nice to use for when you need an escape. But now I guess it's contaminted. Idk. So, what do you think? Am I valid for thinking this?

Hello, so a week ago our place of employment sent a text letting us know that one of our co-workers had sadly passed away. Ever since then, it has been kind of hard for me to comprehend it sometimes. I am able to go to work still. But with him not being there it is difficult. I worked with him every shift for like around 4 months. Never hung out with him outside work. But, he was such a sweet kid who always treated everyone with respect. He cared about every person, he actually made the workplace more bearable. His death was very sudden and unexpected. I also have a manager who won't seem to let it go and always talks about it. I go home and cry after the shift cause it is still too sensitive of a subject. Is it normal to feel this way? I just hope this grief gets better over time. Thanks.

Alright so, if you saw my last post about my friend cutting me off. I have some interesting details to include and I want to see what you think. So the night before my friend decided to cut me off, we went to a concert. When we got into the venue after scanning mobile tickets. My phone suddenly froze and did not work or turn off or on no matter what I did to it. I panicked of course but then just watched the rest of the show. Did not get any pictures or video. Only one of me after I got merch. The next day, my phone died, I charged it and it miraculously came back to life. Now, I feel like this was a sign from the universe. "You don't want to remember this night" type of thing. Does this make sense? I tend to be intuitive as well and can feel things and emotions. And also for awhile in the back of my mind I felt like she may cut me off after our concert. But I kept brushing it off. It sucks that it happened. I'm just realizing a lot of things after this happened. Also, this morning I took a nap and in my dream, I drove away from her. So I think that means letting go. I hope things continue to get better. I am still on my anti-depressants and seeking therapy. But this week was just hard. What do you think?

Hi, so I had this best friend that I knew for like almost 7 years and this week she decided to completely cut me off just because I am "too moody" and negative. I was diagnosed with bipolar depression a week ago, so I'm assuming she just couldn't handle it. She send me a long message explaining that she would no longer like to continue our friendship. She also accused me of not ever wanting to see her. Which doesn't make sense because she was all I had outside of family and I enjoyed our hangouts. So, I replied and apologized to her that she felt this way and I agreed we could take a break. Then I find out she blocked me on instagram so now I am starting to accept that the friendship is totally over. I really want to see others' opinions on this. I just want to see if it was right of her to cut me off just because I am not "fun anymore"?. It feels really crappy and I have no idea if my depression medication is working because this made me more sad. I also feel like, if she truly cared about me, she wouldn't have gone this far to completely cut me off. I guess people change.