hello,
I was married to my wife a month ago. Before the marriage , we used to workout and although my wife is a little on the heavier side, the fact that she was doing something to reduce it looked promising.
After the marriage, the workouts have stopped. I still workout and try to look and feel good for her. But the same is not reciprocated.
I am not attracted to her sexually anymore. I dont want to have sex with her anymore.
I love her because she is a wonderful person and has a sweet charming face and smile.
But she is gaining weight and I do not want to have any sexual contact. I do not even get aroused when she holds me or strips. For everyone around, the marriage has made everyone happy, except me.
When I did point out that she was adding weight and had stopped working out, she said "i did not ask you to change , so do not ask me to change"
I believe every person has a reason for behaving the way they do, thereforeeee i do not argue with her about that. But i am not happy. Sexually unsatisfied and often hate going out with her, because when i see slim women out there, I feel i have made a big mistake.
Is it wrong to feel this way? getting attracted to slim women because the woman you are with is not sexually attractive anymore? Is it wrong on my part to seek an end to the relationship if i am not happy?
I do not want her to change her ways for me, because she is happy doing what she is doing.
For me, of course, I havent had sex for the last one month because of this....( and this is just the second month of marriage!!!!!)
-KD