Stephaniee

I am trying to apply everywhere honestly Its just that i am feeling sad and frustrated everyday I feel like I am losing patience.

Almost 2 years

2 years now I tried to quit and switch jobs but it didn't work out. What i realised that for women our boss likes women who speaks softly and in a spoiled way,putting makeup is also appreciated For the way of speaking its a bit difficult to copy them, I still don't know how to do it but for makeup I started putting but my boss didn't like it. He thought that my eye makeup was smudged. I started changing my clothing style as well I do try to finish my tasks, smile and act happy but I still don't know how to be like other women who get so much benefits from our boss

Hello, I would like to seek your advice on my current situation. I feel like a failure in life. Most of my friends got engaged, married or promoted and I couldn't do any of these. I feel like I missed something, I don't know what to do anymore or how to be happy. Ever since university, i tried to study hard to get a good job but i spend two years unemployed till i found one but my seniors don't want to teach me anything they just tell me to adjust ms- word documents or they explain something then i discover its wrong so they can act like heroes and intervene to save the day and put me aside. I spent 4 years studying electrical engineering to fill out ms-word documents! I tried to find another job, but I couldn't get any. I reach the final stage then they refuse me. My colleagues keeps getting promoted and travel on the company expense and brag about getting extra money, all this leaves me bitter. I get extremely jealous when I hear about my friends or work colleagues' accomplishments. At first, i used to be jealous then i was able to move forward but recently i can't, i cry everyday and i can't focus on anything anymore I know that this is not productive but i can't help it. I feel very frustrated and sad I just don't know what to do!

Well, I live far away and we work in different places so we don't meet as often. Recently I quit my job,but I did pay for other things like for cinema or when we had dessert.( like if we went to 2 places in one date) For marriage, I did feel like it was out of nowhere! That's why I asked this question. I mean from our 3rd date I felt like he was intense with his emotions but I told him we should slow down.

Hello everyone I need your advice so I have been dating this guy for 4 month we went on 7 dates, he never let me pay but on the 8th date he was acting weird I asked him what's wrong he kept talking on wanting to be more serious *mariage* but at the end of the date he asked to split the bill. So do you guys think he was just trying to butter me up to split the bill? Cuz previously when I use to ask him directly he would refuse (My girlfriends told me that when a guy likes you he will be direct about it*money matters* or he won't let you pay ) What do you guys think?

I work for an engineering office

No I work in an engineering office. Well at first I did try to talk to them ask them about their weekend, what they bought etc. I even once showed them what i got. All showed no reaction and one of them just nodded without a single word. The place was small and they sat on the floor and get annoyed when I wanted to get out. I mean after a year i felt pathetic for trying whilst they were just so unfriendly.

Hello everyone, I want advice on how to deal with failure, I am 26 years old and I feel that I didn't accomplish anything. My colleagues from university traveled so many times, got married, or got a high paying job. When I graduated, I applied to many companies but didn't get accepted although I have good grades, did internships and published research articles. At that time, I was confident and I always tried to be better. But afterwards, I couldn't get a job. Then there was COVID, when it was 2021 I discovered that my friends and colleagues were able to succeed and somehow I failed to do so. When I got a job, I couldn't fit in. They treated me like an outsider. I tried many times to talk with them and make conversation, especially with the female coworkers but they ignored me. The place where i sit, they always close the lights and sleep on the floor or smoke. I told them that I needed the lights to work many times but they were like just open the window. After a year, I complained to my supervisor and told him what they were doing but he didn't believe me and told me to go sit somewhere else if I don't like it. When I sat somewhere far from them, the people around me stopped talking to me since I fought with her. I feel like I am in highschool again. I didn't mean to fight with her but working without lights really annoyed me. It frustrates me being paid the minimum wage and not having friends at work. My birthday is coming up and knowing that I would have no one to spend it with makes me even sadder. It's summer vacation and everyone is traveling. Everytime i think about it, I get angry with myself for not being successful or cool enough to have friends. I hope that you guys won't make fun of me for complaining about my life, I just feel too ashamed to talk to someone in person about it.

Hello There is a guy I met at my language course. He is very kind and sweet, we got close and started talking alot. One day he told me that he had a crush on me and asked me out. I agreed and we had a good first date but he leaned for a kiss and I told him that it was too soon for me. I kinda ended the date after that. The next day I explained the situation to him and he seemed to understand. Now we are flirting and he is complimenting me alot and I do the same. But he didn't ask me for a second date. After 2 weeks I gave him through text that I like a certain restaurant. He seemed to understand and the next day he said would you like to go with me, I said of course. but he didn't mention it again. Though I never said that I like him, but I showed him many signs that I do. He is not texting me as often as before.but when we see each other we talk alot (He tells me that he gets very tired when he returns home) What do you advise me to do ? (this is the first time that someone shows interest in me, so I don't know what to do.)

Yes she had cancer

Hello everyone, so I had a crush on a guy at work a while back. But he was giving me mixed signals then said we are friends, he kept repeating it. So I stopped contact with him. Then he went on vacation, shortly after, his mom died. I sent him a condolences message then he asked to call me to talk about it. He explained to me what he was happening to him and his family. Then we stopped talking, at this moment I thought we could be friends since he wasn't interested. Then he came back from vacation, he was acting weird. He started talking to me more, and complimenting me, then after 2 weeks he said he that he had a crush on me since last year. All this made me feel weird because he never showed me that he liked me, he was hot and cold, I just feel confused. Now he started texting me alot and I feel bombarded. I don't have experience in relationships. So could you guys advice me, I don't know if he is honest or will become hot and cold again.

Hello everyone, Is it normal that friends cancel 10 mins or when its time to meet up ? This happened to me quite often, they always say that they are busy or something came up. Although we had agreed to this time and date from before. They say let's hangout but dont make plans i am the one who has to suggest a place and time. But when we go out as a group and someone else suggest time and place they show up. Sometimes one of my friends call me, when she finishes her story she'll say" i have to go" when its time for me to talk or tell her something that happened to me Am i being too sensitive ? are all friends like that? (I am not saying they are bad people, I just get lonely and want them to be there for me)

Lol no🤣 I stopped talking to him

Well thanks everyone I was just a bit apprehensive because they say when woman makes the first move, it doesn't last But anyways I will ask him, hope he'll say yes! Wish me luck ^_^

In your opinion, is it good to say " there is a good pizza place nearby, wanna go there this Friday? Should I specify the date or just keep it vague ?

Hello everyone! Do men consider women who asks them out to watch a movie or for dinner in a restaurant desperate ? Do they appreciate being direct or should i say indirectly that i wanna go see this film or i like this restaurant ?

@iamwhatyoumademe1129 Well, he called me and in the midlde of the conversation he was like "i consider you as a friend 😞 " so i think i got my answer. Another friendzone

I think people misunderstood me, usually in seminars there is no enough time to discuss topics like that it’s just an introduction or we talk about the presenters but at work when we are free, I tell them about my course and the topic we took, I ask for feedback or their opinion. It’s not that I walk up to men and tell them what do u think about « sensitive topic »?

@Wiseman2 i think this is the part that confuses me because when I answer the question asked and then wait for others to talk they called me shy At that time I asked my friends and they told me that I should be more engaging and positive. That’s what I tried to do i took conversation classes in French because I am trying to learn new languages and from that I got to learn and discuss about various topics. Which I bring up in conversation from time to time.

@Wiseman2 @Kwothe28 When we discuss the general topics like their likes and dislikes, aspiration in life, movies and music what else should I talk about ? what do guys like to talk about ? (i just try to keep the conversation going, for euthanasia I don’t talk about it on the first encounter )

@Coily thanks for your tips I just have a question regarding the style. By feminine do you mean dresses and skirts ? i usually wear something like this https://images.app.goo.gl/yAKsZmwMTm4BKShH6

@Batya33 Well I am not that talkative but when someone approach me I do talk and ask them questions Topics can be : hobbies, favorite place to go, workplace automation, transhumanism, euthanasia etc I go to technical seminars. By positive I want to say optimist I try not to be opinionated but understand all the different sides to a topic. As I said I try but for topics that are controversial sometimes I do have an opinion on them

Honestly I look for calm and collected men. Who aren’t afraid to express their opinions. I usually meet men at seminars, work or through friends, some act interested but after talking couple of times. They pull away or say that they are busy! Just like that guy at work who acted interested and asked me many questions and of course I reciprocated and asked him as well. But when I started to like him he stopped talking as much.

@Batya33 i do stand up straight and smile when I enter the room. I am short (5 ^ 1 ) I also try to be positive when I talk to others