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Thank you for your advice! We are definitely fortunate to have the technology we currently have!

That is true, military people do usually have to go a lot longer than this. Me being sad about a 3 month separation does seem a bit pathetic in comparison lol. We definitely will be making sure we set time aside to properly talk though. Thank you so much for your advice!

That is true, we have a lot of ways to talk to each other! His work requires him to come back, so if he did want to stay, he would have to come back first and do a transfer that way. Norway is definitely very similar to the country we live in, in terms of scenery, so thought he may love the country, our country is not all that different looks wise. I do hope the 3 months goes quicker than I think it will! Thank you for your advice!

He heavily enjoys his job, it’s not a desk job or anything, definitely very physical, so the work wouldn’t get tedious or boring, it would definitely be exciting for him. I do believe he will be glad to come home to me at the end though! Communication will likely be a little sparse due to everything that will be going on, but that should be okay, as long as we still talk every 1-2 days as we normally do (I’m sure he won’t be able to wait very long to send me pictures or tell me cool things about the country) The virtual date night sounds like a great idea. We will have to work out what times work best for us, due to the 12 hour time difference. I do hope 3 months goes by quickly! Thank you for your advice!

That would definitely be hard being a military family, but it’s great things work for them! I will definitely try have interesting things to tell him, though will probably win with levels of interesting things haha. Thank you for your advice!

That’s a very good point! I know there will be some attractive people over there, but he is choosing to come home to me and continue building our life, so that definitely does put my mind at ease! Technology is definitely so much more advanced that it used to be! I don’t doubt we will have any trouble keeping in contact worn each other, the different time zones would likely be the only thing. Like you said though, we can just leave messages for each other! I would think this would be the case. Him getting to know his way around the place he will be working and getting to know the new people he will be working with (plus the initial shock of him actually being in the country he’s dreamed of going to!). Once that has all settled down, I’m sure we will get into a rhythm with talking to each other! I do also hope we benefit from it! Thank you for your advice!

That is very true, if he does break up with me because of that, it would be very stupid and I would be better off without. I do always try to be the best and most supportive I can be! I also highly doubt he would leave me, as others have said here, they (or their partners) quite enjoyed coming back home again! While my boyfriend and I have been quite close all these years, I have never lost myself. I already have a lot of creative hobbies and sports that I enjoy immensely. I am definitely not afraid of doing things alone or having my own interests, so I will just dive into all of those! I definitely won’t be bringing him down about the trip, he is so excited and I am excited for him! I would never even dream of telling him not to go, as it’s such a great opportunity he got selected for! I am definitely a bit sad that he will be so far away and I believe I’m allowed to feel that way, but I won’t be letting it consume everything or make him feel guilty for going! Thank you for your advice!

Wow that sounds like A LOT of love and commitment between your parents to make things work! I’m so glad things worked out so well between them! That is such a good point about how they would be excited to share their adventures and experiences. He has said that he will be sending me a lot of photos and videos of the more touristy things he does and the views. It is also a very good point about how he would likely seek out single guy activities in our current city, not head over to the other side of the world. I definitely don’t have any fears that he would cheat while over there, but it’s a great point to add. I am definitely very excited for him and I am sharing in his excitement. I won’t be clingy, I’ll just keep things how they normally are in our relationship. He has said he will definitely be coming back, but taking me over there for a holiday in the next couple of years, so that would be quite cool! Thank you for your advice!

This is so great to know, thank you! I definitely know he would miss me, but I do want him to look forward to coming home to me at the end of the 3 months!

Hi there, sorry, it seems you may have taken my post a bit different to how I intended. In my post I mention that my boyfriend has never done anything to make me question his loyalty or love for me, which implies that he has not ever cheated. I wasn’t quite looking for opinions on whether or not my boyfriend and I should have kids and buy a house, as I stated those were likely to happen next year, rather than this year. This was more added to let the readers know that we are committed and on the same page, so they can write their replies appropriately. I was looking for advice on what to do with long distance relationships, as neither of us have done it before. Saying that we should definitely hold off on those things makes me a bit confused as it comes across as though you might think him going to Norway for work is a red flag in our relationship? Please let me know if I’m wrong though. I don’t mean to offend or make assumptions, that is just how it came across to me.

Hi everyone, I just need some advice on the whole situation as I am incredibly new. I (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for 5.5 years. We have heavily discussed getting engaged later this year, buying a house together next year and having kids very soon after that, so we are very committed and on the same page. His job has an exchange program with Norway every year for a select amount of people, where they go away for about 3 months and work over there 5 days a week. My boyfriend has ALWAYS wanted to go to Norway (we both have really) and so this opportunity is definitely a once in a lifetime thing for him as he said once we have kids he wouldn’t consider doing it. We haven’t been apart for much longer than 2 or 3 weeks before (time apart was mainly due to covid lockdowns) so 3 months is definitely longer than we are used to. Norway is over 17,500kms (or roughly 11,000 miles) away from where we live, so I’m definitely struggling with the fact that he will be on the other side of the world and I won’t be able to visit (ticket prices are well over $2,500 USD return, so it’s not really an option) I’m afraid that since Norway and their people are so different and exciting, that he will find me and the country we live in too boring when he arrives back. I am afraid this may change his feelings for me. He’s very excited and I am very excited for him, but the time will go quicker for him than it will for me. I know it shouldn’t change things in our relationship as we have been together for quite awhile now and are very much in love and heavily committed. Nothing has ever happened to make me question his loyalty or love for me, I am just an over thinker whose mind goes to worst case scenarios. Has anyone else that’s been in a relationship for multiple years, been apart for 3 months due to work? How has it worked out for you? What kind of things did you do to make sure it did work?