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A few years ago I met a girl overseas and we almost became a thing but miscommunication lead to it never happening. I went on to another, cutting her out of my life out of respect for the girl I was dating at the time. After that relationship ended I reached out to find out that me leaving her life had really hurt her. She was still there for me to help guide me through a rough patch, but there seemed to be an energy that she was still upset so I felt bad and decided to let her be and leave her alone. Through out the years she always messaged to see how I was doing every couple of months or so and we would send a few messages back in forth on how life was going. But there seemed to still be some kind of tension so one of us would always end the convo after a few days. At the end of last year she reached out again and suddenly it was like the old us. We sent messages that took me over an hour to read and send everything, taking longer for her because english is not her native language. The convos have been deep and filled with compliments and pick me ups from both sides as well as a bunch of hard teasing. Shes told me that stuff I sent was the best thing anyone said to her, multiple times saying something nice I said was going to make her cry and she kept a picture of it. We've also both apologized about the past and explained to each other why and how it went down. She knows I think the world of her and has expressed how grateful she is I am in her life. She might be moving to my location soon (life just brought us both there, its both of ours dream location). Now in my late 20's, there is no girl I've ever come across that even comes close to my feelings for her. Based off gut I feel like she has become interested again, but for the last 5 months or so communication has slowed down to one long message every week to three weeks. I tend to reply same day or within a few days but she takes her time. She apologizes for taking so long, explains shes bad at texting, and I know she busy with post grad university and a job at the moment. So my question is, does taking that long to reply mean she's not interested? The convos are deep and long winded but I know for myself that as busy as I am I get excited to hear from her and couldn't imagine taking so long to reply so I find time. When she does reply it definitely feels like she wants to talk and is enjoying having me around to talk to. But I've never come across a girl that was interested and wanted to only talk one every week or sow. I ask because I can't read the situation at all, and I would rather just go no contact if there isn't a chance. I cant focus on anyone else if she's allowing me to hold her attention even this often. On one hand I feel like the path to her is to just be patient and be around, gaining trust that I lost when I hurt her badly years ago. On the other hand I feel like she obviously isn't interested due to the delay's in the replies and I should leave her be. I convince myself she is just nice and caring and only replying because she feels forced, even though she has been the reason we kept contact over the years and started this stretch of actually regularly being back in each other's lives. Should I just leave her be? Or just stay patient?